The JOY of being a Sober Mother

The JOY of being a Sober Mother

How did you wake up this morning? A can full of beans, half a can of beans or feeling like an empty can of beans that has been lying neglected in the bin for a week?

And what part did your drinking last night play in the way you feel today?

Today I am a full can of emotional beans, and half a can of physical beans, because last night was a show stopper in my life.

I finally got to bed at 3am, after driving home a very drunk friend of my son’s, who couldn’t remember his address.

I would have preferred him to stay the night, even though I would have had to sit with him (he was that drunk), but he was adamant, in the way only a totally pissed person can be, that he go home, because it is his mum’s birthday today – that poor women is in for such a treat……

When I finally made it home, I spent the next 90 minutes clearing vomit from the hall, the front steps and my Girls – yes, ladies, he had thrown up on my sleeping dogs! I mean WTF!!

Now this is a lovely, kind, funny, thoughtful, delight of a young man, and this episode was totally out of character. Last night he just lost the alcohol plot, in exactly the same way that I, and you, are lovely, kind, funny, thoughtful, delights of women, who have also just lost the alcohol plot.

I lost my alcohol plot for 28 years, yet I am effortlessly, peacefully now safely back in the loving, safe home base of me.

And the irony of last night is not lost on me. I am fully aware that last nights scenario could easily have been me, probably was me in the past. But now that my Golden Ticket in life son is an adult, that it would have been my son, getting me to bed, making sure I had water, putting a container by my bed for me to be sick in.

That my son would have slept badly worrying about me, ashamed, disappointed and embarrassed by me, (as I would have been 100 times more when I finally woke up), and yet I live in the grace of knowing that will never happen again.

So, how do I feel this morning?

Happy, blessed at peace, proud, joyful, profoundly grateful and a little bit tired. And whilst tiredness passes, the other emotions never do, because yet again, I was the mum my son needed, and the surrogate mum his friend desperately needed.

The mum who just got up in a ‘crisis’ and ‘did’, both capable and calm.

The wonder of the mother I had so long dreamed of being. The mum who took over, stepped up, who loved and cared, without stress or trauma, for me, and for these incredible young men, and all because I am sober.

This woman is who you are too, its just that in your drinking pain you have temporarily lost sight of her.

There are NO mysteries around why or how you drink – why sometimes you can stay away, and others you have to, just have to have a drink. NONE. And there are NO mysteries around how to release all your alcohol confusion and pain, effortlessly.

My journey was long and hard, until I understood the misunderstandings of my alcohol beliefs, and then it was, and is, easy. If it wasn’t an easy way of living, I would be drunk now, I have no doubt about that.

Now I use my journey, my years, my learning, my life strategies to shrink your journey, not just from years to months, but from months to 6 weeks.

Through my unique RAPID ALCOHOL RECOVERY METHOD I have developed a trailblazing new approach to the world of recovery from alcohol pain, that comes from a different perspective, simple to understand and use mindset shifts, supported by even simpler strategies that empower and build confidence and trust in YOU in every area of your life and effortlessly release your alcohol ‘need’, because YOU are your comfort, YOU are your support, and YOU step back into being the wonderful, amazing women you truly are.

My work is not for women who want to be saved. It is for women who want to be empowered. It is for women who want the return to their self-trust and self-love to own the changes to their drinking they make, and to know that no matter what life throws at them, they will stay in the pace and grace of freedom from any alcohol ‘need’.

If my message resonates with you, and you are ready to commit to stepping back into the woman and mother you truly are, the golden opportunity is here, waiting for you.

I have used everything I have learned on my journey back to a women I adore, understanding that your struggle with alcohol has very little to do with alcohol and everything to do with your ‘Alcohol is the Solution’ belief.

I know that willpower, control, motivation, avoidance and all the old tried and failed methods don’t work, and so do you, because you have tried and ‘failed’ over and over again. And I also know what does work, effortlessly.

So if now is your time, take the only hard step to change and reach out to me, today. All you have to do is contact me HERE, and I will guide you from there

Have a peaceful day and be kind and gentle with your lovely self.

Sonia x

PS. I love to share my clients joy at their freedom, so here’s a recent TESTIMONIAL, from my unique 6 week RAPID ALCOHOL RECOVERY METHOD coaching process. The success of this exciting new life/drink changing methodology, is spreading quickly, don’t you deserve to this easy success?

“Hi Sonia, another day of being ME! I love writing that and its been months, since I haven’t been ME. I had no idea the peace I would get from changing my drinking and it certainly wasn’t why I signed on the dotted line with you. I am over the moon that I did though, and so is my daughter and my son. Thank you”


If you would like to understand more about my journey from 28 years of alcoholism, to peaceful freedom, take a look at my internationally acclaimed book,This Isn’t Me (click on the link HERE).I wrote it for my son, as an apology for his younger years, and as an attempt to explain the un-explainable and to let him know in the clearest way possible, that always was, and always will be, my Number One.

How Much JOY of LIFE Has Your Drinking Taken From You?

How Much JOY of LIFE Has Your Drinking Taken From You?

It’s my birthday next week and my Golden Ticket of a son is taking a half day for a secret treat (God help me – I imagine I will be climbing something and sweating buckets of fear knowing his idea of a ‘treat’……) He told his work I will be 75, when in fact I will only be 56 years young!

A grateful, blessed 56 years young. Grateful and blessed to have these years of absolute joy of life that I didn’t think was possible.

I am older, saggier, funnier, kinder, more at peace with myself , more comfortable in my increasing wrinkly skin than I have ever been, and beyond grateful to have another sober birthday and the opportunity to see, feel and hear the wonders of life all around me.  Wonders I didn’t even know I existed during my drinking years.

I wanted to be sober so badly, and I knew all the things I didn’t want any more of, the headaches, the shame, the pretending I was ok, when I was anything but.  The exhaustion of always being the life and soul, minus any real life or soul, the lying, the hiding my drinking and the trying to convince myself I was in control. 

Do you recognise any of this?

The truth is, I had no idea what a sober life, or any other life was, but my God I do now, and I want you to know too.

You know that your drinking takes from you, and your loves.  You see, feel and hear the distress that comes from your nightly ‘pick you up’ that ‘drags you down’. 

But have you ever really stopped and thought of the true costs of your drinking?

Yes, there are the money ‘costs’, and you can probably recoup the cash. You can save a bit here, cut back a bit there, it’s not so bad (until it is).

But I’m talking about the soul wounding deeper and much bigger costs. The costs of joy, peace, happiness, love, self-respect, self-esteem and all the other ‘self’s’ that when in place, gift you the wonder of a life worth living, not the half-life of your drinking.

How many of the life’s loving moments with your children, your partner, your family and friends have you lost? The memories of joy that are at best fogged over, and at worst you deprived yourself of because of your hangover, your alcohol worry and stress, your fearful thinking and your sleepless nights?

How many days of peace has your drinking cost you?  How much laughter, love, contentment, and fun?

How much success has your drinking cost you? How many times have you not put yourself forward, fearful that you are flawed and lesser because of your drinking?

How much of the capable, less resilient, less amazing, sexy, confident and wonderful you has gone down the hatch with your wine?

These are costs that take to much from you, these are the costs the rob you of the joy of a life worth living. 

You have been gifted this one potentially glorious opportunity to be your very best self, to bask in a Universe that loves you, with people who love and respect you, with a YOU that loves and respects you, and no matter how many years you live, this one time opportunity of life, is painfully short.

You can’t get any of the lost joys back, not one minute, of one day, of one month of however many years you have struggled with your drinking, but you can make the decision to change, for life, TODAY, and gift yourself, and your loves, the life you all deserve, for the many years of life you have ahead of you.

The peace, love, joy and wonder of this life is priceless, completely priceless. 

I have women who say to me I would do/pay anything to be free from my drinking. It would mean everything to me to be free, and yet, when it comes down to it, there is something else, someone else more important in their life.

Something that some else needs, and being the giving, loving woman that you are, you decide to put yourself last again and continue doing what they have always done, trying and ‘failing’ and so stay trapped in your stop/start drinking cycles and all the associated unhappiness and despair that comes with it, instead of investing in yourself, even though you know that what is best for you, is best for everyone you love.

Your drinking costs you to much LIFE, yet it is YOUR decision to pay that cost, over and over again, and so feel the loss of you, if not everyday, certainly every day you want to change the way you drink and find that you cannot.

This is my 6th sober birthday, I don’t have big plans, I don’t need them.  I have love, and peace and harmony and gratitude, the most profound gratitude for the gift of freedom and joy of the life I now have, the freedom to be who I am without shame of fear of relapse. The freedom that gifts me the glorious inner knowing that I am good enough, always.

There is no greater gift than this.

If you are heartsick of your drinking, and know that you have to try something new, something empowering, something effortless and something that will change the way you drink for life, NOW, I have the answer.

I developed the unique 6 week, 1-2-1 RAPID ALCOHOL RECOVERY METHOD, coaching process, from my own sudden joyful sober moment, the knowledge and learning’s I have invested in over the last 6 years, as well as my training’s as a Master Practitioner of NLP and a Master Coach.

Through this incredible, life changing/drink changing process, my clients enjoy a level of success unheard of in traditional therapies.

The ONLY hard part of changing the way you drink is reaching out, from there, I will do the rest.  I will guide you back to the life you deserve and still able to enjoy a social drink effortlessly.

You just have to message me, HERE

Be kind and gentle with yourself.


PS, I love to share my clients joy at their freedom, so here’s a recent Testimonial

“My life has changed completely. I feel rested and at peace even on the busiest of days. I have created 15 minute slots in my day for me and this one small change, as well as my 5 minute morning routine has bought me back into balance. All those years I thought I was struggling with alcohol when I was really struggling with the lack of me. Thanks darling Sonia, your vision is so different from any other approach and it just works”


There will never be a time that is more right for change than today. You already live in fear, why not make the choice now to live in freedom? Here’s the Rapid Alcohol Recovery Method link again in case you missed it earlier


If you would like to understand more about my journey from 28 years of alcoholism, to peaceful freedom, take a look at my internationally acclaimed book,This Isn’t Me (click on the link HERE).I wrote it for my son, as an apology for his younger years, and as an attempt to explain the un-explainable.

Has Your Drinking Spiraled in Lockdown?

Has Your Drinking Spiraled in Lockdown?

In this time of huge uncertainty, it is hardly surprising the alcohol sales have increased, or rather soared. One report states that in March there was an increase of alcohol sales £199 MILLION and that one distributor announced recorded sales of 255,000 extra bottles in ONE DAY, and that 55% more people are drinking daily! I mean, WOW!

And even though we now have more freedom, I doubt this is party drinking.

Its not normal for us to be separated, to not physically hug or kiss our loves, and on top of that, you are stuck at home, maybe home schooling, maybe furloughed, and feeling very uncertain about a future that no-one can predict. And so you drink and your evening glass has become a bottle and a must.

You only drink to make yourself ‘feel better’, and living in this strange and shifting reality, you feel in need of more ‘comfort’, not less, but your drinking doesn’t comfort you.

However you know that your drinking doesn’t make you feel better. You feel much worse, not just physically, but emotionally too. You are more tired, have less energy, less of the peaceful loving feeling you opened the bottle to find, less of the woman you truly are and less of the mother you want to be to your children.

And how do you know that? Well, you feel it in the lack of calm within your home, and you see it in the tense faces of your loved ones – no matter how you try to hide it, they always know when you have been drinking.

And so you have realized that this must drink, must now stop. But you can’t stop. And even worse, now, on top of all the stresses of this situation, you have the added, claustrophobic winter duvet weight of your drinking laid heavily over every aspect of your life – because make no mistake, your drinking affects every area of who you are, and what you.

So, what stops you gifting yourself the freedom and peace you deserve, now, when you need it most?

Some of the amazing women I speak to, who are brave enough to reach out to me and love the sound of the Rapid Alcohol Recovery Method process, want the freedom of the Testimonials page, and who know that my work resonates with them, and know that they will have the freedom to choose whether they drink or not socially, in just 6 weeks, say the ‘cost’ of signing up is too much right now.

And I get that, I truly do, I struggled for 28 years to change my drinking, and at that time, probably would have thought seriously about the ‘cost’ of £1500 being too much, too far out of reach, as well as frightened of failing again. I wasn’t able to believe I could change and I was fearful of who/how I would be/move in life without alcohol, all of which paralyzed me into inaction.

But here’s the thing, and this is said to you with absolute love from one good, kind woman to another who has been where you are, putting on a brave face, glossing over your the pain of your drinking and the fears and anxieties around alcohol, that wake you in the night, there is NO COST to the life of freedom and peace that comes from no longer feeling exhausted, a failure and controlled by bloody alcohol.

Freedom from your drinking has no price, it is priceless.

Here’s what I know to be 100 true, there are no mysteries around why you drink, and no mysteries as to how to change, so no fear of it not working for you. There is no failure. All there is, is a different approach.

This is the approach that knows that the traditional methods of ‘don’t pick up the glass’ is both the wrong place to start and the hardest way, I know that 100% to be true, and I know what does work and why.

The Rapid Alcohol Recovery Method is an investment, not a cost. It is the only investment you will make for a lifetime of understanding, compassion and peace around alcohol. This unique process is effortless.

The Rapid Alcohol Recovery Method takes you on the joyful journey back into the woman you truly are. The resourceful, resilient, peaceful, loving, maybe slightly mad (in a good way, or maybe that’s just me…..), woman you love to be and who your loves have missed, because of the way you drink.

You can choose to live in this uncertain time (for who knows how long), without investing in you. Yes, you will have the extra cash stored for a rainy day, still in your daily drinking struggle, longing for freedom and innocently unaware that your drinking causes so many of your rainy days, or you can stop, pause, take a deep breath and own the truth of what I have written, and step up, commit to YOU, and in doing so, take back the freedom and peace you have so long surrendered to alcohol.

Now is the time for change. Not next month, or next year, or when the job situation becomes clearer. By waiting for a ‘better situation’, you stay stuck in a ‘worse one’, in your painful, unhappy and physically and emotionally expensive drinking.

I know that the only hard part of changing the way you drink, is the reaching out, so if you are ready, just contact me HERE, with your name, and i will do the rest.

Be kind and gentle with yourself


Ps. Here’s a very recent joyful Client Testimonial. I absolutely respect privacy, so never publish names.

“I am 16 weeks sober & during Lockdown! I have never achieved this before and there is no stress of struggle or anxiety. It feels unbelievable and yes, I have joy. Thank you Sonia, thank you”

This what is waiting for you! x

Finally, if you would like to understand more about my journey from 28 years of alcoholism, to peaceful freedom, take a look at my internationally acclaimed book,This Isn’t Me (click on the link HERE).I wrote it for my son, as an apology for his younger years, and as an attempt to explain the un-explainable.

The TRUTH About Your Wine Witch, And What She Really Wants for You……

The TRUTH About Your Wine Witch, And What She Really Wants for You……

How did you drink last night? And the night before?

Was it an easy decision, no ‘need’ behind the glass of wine with dinner, sipped, enjoyed and the bottle back in the fridge? Feeling happy, relaxed and at peace.

Or was it the bottle, the first glass gulped back, as you surrendered in defeat to the overwhelm of your alcohol mind battle? Feeling despair and confusion over yet another bottle gone,

When was the last time you felt hollowed out by your struggle not to drink?

When did you last give in, in frustration, fear and helplessness to a glass of wine, that became 2, and then the bottle?

And, how are you feeling in the deepest part of you? The part no-one else can see, but you.

Are you proud of you, of what you do, of who you are?

Or, as I was for so many long years, are you ashamed, feeling weak and helpless in your drinking…feeling lack of control, lack of peace, lack of physical and emotional wellness, feeling isolated and lost…..

You are meant to live connected and at peace with yourself, safe in your trust of you, quietly, deeply self-accepting, self-loving, self-comforting and so many other elements of self that gift you the peace and joy that makes life truly worth living, even in the harder, sadder times….and you those will always come and go.

You know that changing your drinking will change everything in your life….You have the evidence of it.

When you don’t drink, or drink much less, you feel more connected to who you truly are, physically and emotionally. You sleep better, your mood is more balanced, you laugh more, you hug more, you have more energy, you like yourself more and you know, you just know that you HAVE to make change your drinking, you just have to. Maybe not completely, just to cut down, to look, to feel and to act better.  

And so you make the (daily) decision again……..You are NOT drinking tonight! And in that decision, you feel you feel just a little bit better, just a little bit more you, and you breathe again, because you know that today, ‘You Got This!’ It’s over, you’re back in control……

And your day wears on. 

But as the hours slip by, a nagging feeling starts in the pit of our stomach…..somethings going down, somethings going wrong, an unwelcome visitor starts to tap at the door of your steadfast decision. 

Who is it?  What’s her name, and why won’t she just leave you alone?…….

Do you talk to your friends about this dreaded, destructive someone who comes zooming in on a broomstick enticing you back to the bottle? 

Do they know her too, are they included in her daily visits? 

Is this who you have labelled your WINE WITCH?  

And what does your Wine Witch say to you? Maybe words of entrapment along the lines of;

  • “Have just the one”
  • “You deserve it”
  • “You’ve had a long day, why not start tomorrow”
  • “Don’t deprive yourself of something you love”
  • “You’ll be ok this time, this time you can stop at one”
  • “It’s not that bad”

And all the rest. Recognize her now?

And as she casts her alcohol spell, you give in. You drink, you feel rubbish, weak a failure, and blame your Wine Witch…..well you have to blame someone don’t you? I mean you don’t deliberately want to feel terrible, physically and emotionally, when you see the faces of shattered trust of your loved ones the next day.

And so you focus on getting rid of this mad, unkind, destructive demon who goads you into drinking, but here’s the truth.

Your Wine Witch is not your enemy, she is not outside you, she doesn’t come unbidden, out of nowhere or because of any clock time.

Instead, she comes when she is needed, when you are in need……

In need of rest, comfort, nourishment, you time, or just to shut down the fight in your head (which she does NOT cause).

The truth is, your Wine Witch, comes to comfort you, to support you, to offer you the love and connection you are lacking in the moment, that you may have some sense that you are missing, but have lost the sight of how to deliver back what you need, and so you turn to alcohol. That is the truth.

You are not in ‘parts’, so there is no part of you that wants to hurt you.

There is confusion about how to offer and deliver you what you need, but no malignant part of you that wants you to fail, that wants to destroy your health, happiness, peace, calm or love of yourself or others.

I repeat again, because it is so important that you recognise this, you are designed to live in awareness and connectedness of who you are, what you need and how to deliver it. That is called your instinct.

However, life situations and learning’s from others, in this instance around alcohol, have taught you to believe, that alcohol is the problem.

That alcohol is a battle you can never win, that you have to abstain for ever. That changing the way you drink means giving up for life, that changing the way you drink will be hard and painful and worth it, but still a battle that will need constant supervision to stop you going back. And what you believe, you see, feel and you hear, all around you.

Here’s another truth. When you go into battle over alcohol, ‘To Drink, or Not To Drink’, you are going into conflict with yourself around your beliefs about alcohol, not with alcohol.

You are battling it out with your Conscious Mind, your learned ‘knowing’, pitted against your Unconscious Mind, you learned ‘feeling’.

Now you think your Conscious ‘knowing’ would win, but against your Unconscious ‘feeling’, (that has no language, just feels, so doesn’t even know what alcohol is), it never, ever stands a chance.

And the more you Conscious knowing berates you for drinking, the more your hurt Unconscious sends up alcohol as the method of comfort and support.

The worse you think, the worse you feel, the more you drink, to comfort yourself.

Your Conscious Mind is the voice that tells you “DON’T!”. “Don’t be so weak, what’s wrong with you, you’re useless, you know this will end badly” and that voice is stern, unkind, lecturing and makes you feel bad – and this is often referred to as the Angel…..strangely, as this Angel can be pretty dammed abusive.

And in response to the hurt your Conscious Mind inflicts on you, to comfort and support you, Unconscious Mind, your ‘Wine Witch’ kicks in.

Softer and kinder in tone, having no idea what alcohol is, or what it does to you, she is determined to hold you, to protect you. and in her lack of knowing what alcohol is and does to you, she feels you are trying to deny yourself comfort when you need it most.

Your Unconscious Mind is your super loving, super confused, super power that controls 98% of your behaviours, who will do anything and everything in her power to offer you love, and that is who your Wine Witch is.

Your Wine Witch is, (in intention), your deaf, mute, unknowing, only ‘feeling’, Guardian Angel, who exists only in response to your needing comfort from ‘bad’ feelings. But because the reality (so very different from her intention behind it), is that her method of comfort harms you more, you have grown to fear and hate her arrival.

Imagine now if instead of criticizing yourself when your alcohol thoughts drift in, you were to pause, take a couple of long, slow deep breathes, and to ask yourself with gentle love, “What am I looking for right now?” “What do I need to do for me?” and then waited and listened.

The true answer of what you are looking for, would appear from within you, your need for rest, comfort, communication, quiet, nourishment, physically, emotionally or both. Whatever it is you are lacking in that moment when your old alcohol thinking came up, which you then delivered.

What do you think would happen then? Well, you reconnect with YOU.

You re-connect with who you are and what you need, and in that place of self-awareness, self-compassion, self-care your step back in to self, yourself.

You step back into trust and communication with you, you start to feel the self-knowing, the self-acceptance that leads to your super power of self-love.

That is the ‘you’ that has no ‘need’, no cravings, no feelings of anxiety or deprivation around alcohol, because alcohol was never what you were looking for. You were looking for what you were lacking, and you were lacking the love and understanding of YOU.

When you have that re-connection, you have the peace, balance and harmony in life you were designed to live in, to be, and in that place, all your alcohol confusion and your loving Wine Witch simply drifts away, allowing your drinking to change naturally and effortlessly.

Be kind and gentle with yourself



Changing your drinking is not hard, and the life your drinking has given you is. And changing your drinking doesn’t have to mean ‘never again’, it simply has to be that are free to choose when you drink, not to feel you have no choice.

But you only stay stuck for as long as you choose to. You may have tried many times to stop and instead found yourself on the nightmare hamster wheel of your Stop/Start cycle instead, and that is because you have tried the same formula of not picking up the glass and hoping everything else will fall into place. Sadly, you know this doesn’t work, and knowing that, and knowing that you long to be free of your alcohol stress, anxiety and pain, you have to do something else.

I offer that something else. I created the unique 6 week, 1-2-1 RAPID ALCOHOL RECOVERY METHOD coaching process, based on my own sudden, effortless freedom from 28 years of out of control drinking.

It is not a freedom that comes with the caveats of control or relying on willpower, it is the freedom of choice and peace, and if you have understood this blog, if my thinking resonates with you, it the freedom that is on offer to you too.


Finally, if you would like to understand more about my journey from 28 years of alcoholism, to peaceful freedom, take a look at my internationally acclaimed book,This Isn’t Me, described by Ranvir Singh, of Good Morning Britain as ‘Beautiful and devastating’  (click on the link HERE).I wrote it for my son, as an apology for his younger years, and as an attempt to explain the un-explainable.

The THREE Beliefs you need to shift, to change your drinking, effortlessly

The THREE Beliefs you need to shift, to change your drinking, effortlessly

How are you feeling today, after yesterday’s daily struggle with drinking?

Even if you don’t have a hangover, even if you managed to ‘control’ how much you drank, can you do it again tonight, tomorrow night, for a week, a month, and how much energy, exhausting mental and physical energy, will you have to put into it?

You know that the way you drink hurts you, on a level that is so deep, it feels as though it scars your soul.

You see children’s anxious, watchful eyes waiting to see how you will react over small incidents, or no incidents, just a little bit more noise or mess, cuts you in half.

Maybe your children are older, but their pain is still the same, worrying and fearful wanting to ring you, not wanting to hear your drunken voice. It’s all the same.

The shouty, snappy impatient you they see, is not who you are and is absolutely not a reflection of your love for them – that huge well of love that makes you want to scoop them up and hold them until your heart and theirs, feel as one.

But sadly, that is not who they see or how they believe you feel about them. You see the confusion and hurt and lack of safety in your love staring back at you, and you go into the bathroom and cry.

So feeling the way you do, what stops you making the commitment to letting go, for once and for all, of your drinking pain?

For most, it is the fear of failure – and yet you feel you are failing anyway.

Or the fear of how you will cope/be without alcohol – and yet you despair of your lack of coping, and who you are, with alcohol

Or the fear of trying again, and failing – because everything you have tried before has had the same approach and so the same results, just packaged differently.

Everything you fear about changing your drinking stems from 3 beliefs you currently hold

1 Your ‘Alcohol is the SOLUTION‘ belief

2 Your ‘Changing the way you drink will be hard‘, belief

3 Your ‘You can never drink again’ belief

And how do you know you have these 3 belief’s? It’s easy.

  • When you think about not having a drink at the end of a busy day, how do you feel? Contracted or Expanded
  • When you think about trying to change your drinking, how do you feel? Contracted or Expanded
  • When you think that changing your drinking means ‘never again’, how do you feel? Contracted or Expanded

When you feel Contracted you have the 3 beliefs. Contracted feelings are feelings of FEAR, and your fear always shows up first in your tummy. Think now about changing the way you drink and notice the feelings that arise – words you might also use to describe the feelings are deprivation, anxiety, loss, all of which are layers of fear. Do you recognise that?

When you feel Contracted, changing your drinking is fearful, stressful and very, very hard.

When you feel Contracted, you are thinking about stepping away from a habit that brings you something you need. And that need always comes under the umbrella of ‘comfort’ – this can mean rest, peace, coping, confidence, all things you don’t have, and need at different times.

However, when you feel Expanded, you are excited about change, the ‘challenge’, you look forward to it, expecting great results. Changing your drinking just means learning something new and you can’t wait to bring it on and enjoy the freedom.

In Expanded feelings there is no fear, and there are no 3 painful beliefs. Do you recognise this too, even if you can’t yet apply it to your drinking?

If you do, that’s fantastic as it means you already have a shift in awareness that can, when you know how to, propel you forward to changing your drinking, with ease, and it is the knowing and accepting of the above that makes all the difference.

I didn’t know, so couldn’t accept, or work with the awareness of the 3 beliefs I held around alcohol, and so I fought and failed for 28 painful years to change, in any way, how I drank.

I now know that those beliefs were 100% were the walls of my alcohol prison, not alcohol, and that they are yours too, and like mine, yours too can be easily disappear.

But your old beliefs cannot be smashed, or broken – your beliefs are who you are, even when they don’t serve you, and your beliefs are the creators of our reality, until you recognize them and know the process of letting them go.

It is easy to let go of your ‘Alcohol is the SOLUTION‘ belief. Awareness of a new way of thinking, backed up consistently by easy self-loving actions, that cost you nothing and enhance every step of your empowering journey to peace and freedom around alcohol, is all that you need.

I have a simple formula for changing your ‘Alcohol is the SOLUTION’ belief, and it is not hard, I promise you. It is literally down to a 4 step process of, AWARENESS +LIVING + FEELING = BELIEVING and once you no longer believe that alcohol is in any way your solution, the other 2 beliefs simply cease to exist. I promise you.

Awareness – learning how to recognise your limiting beliefs and releasing them, in the moment

Living – creating a way of living that has no focus on alcohol, is easy and re-builds your trust and love of you.

Feeling – the joy of consistently living your new life where alcohol, does not even feature as any sort of Solution. Where alcohol is just another beverage, an occasional treat, that you can take or leave, because your real, empowering solution is YOU!

Bring these 4 elements together and you easily release any beliefs around alcohol that leave you fearful, stressed and out of control around alcohol and alcohol situations. It is that simple.

Changing the way you drink is not hard you simply don’t know how too, and that is no longer a problem, because I do!

My empowering and unique 6 week Rapid Alcohol Recovery Method process gifts you the peaceful freedom from your exhausting, conflicting mind chatter.

It allows for the gentle release of your ‘Alcohol is the Solution’ belief, and with that one gone, the other two beliefs just don’t exist! And you are gifted back the woman and mother you deserve to be, that you truly are, for you and your loves.

How utterly wonderful is that?

Don’t wait for a tomorrow that never comes, don’t try another, yet the same, quit drinking process, packaged with a different name, it won’t work. You know that, because by God have you tried!

NOW is the time to change your drinking and transform your life, so what’s stopping you? If you would like a confidential chat, contact me, you are trapped only as long as you allow yourself to be.

Be kind and gentle with yourself

Sonia x

PS. Here’s a recent client testimonial – I absolute respect all my clients desire for confidentiality, so I never use names.

“I ‘forgot’ to drink on Saturday! I forgot and I have never forgotten to drink in the last 15 years. I know we agreed on 2 nights a week, because I wanted that, but I find I only drink on one. I am euphoric at how easy this process is. Thank you, thank you, thank you”


If you would like to join a supportive, loving community of amazing women who are on the same journey to letting go of thier ‘Alcohol is the Solution’ belief, why not join my private facebook group, The Rapid Alcohol Recovery Method, (click here to request joining https://bit.ly/2UpNdZU ). It’s a loving safe space where I share tips and training and you get the support and care of the rest of our lovely lot!


If you would like to understand more about my journey from 28 years of alcoholism, to peaceful freedom, take a look at my internationally acclaimed book,This Isn’t Me (click on the link HERE).I wrote it for my son, as an apology for his younger years, and as an attempt to explain the un-explainable.

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