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Insights from a (formerly) Drunk Mother – Book

For the 28 years I struggled with my alcoholism, I don’t know how I managed to hold on to my sanity…and looking back now, I’m not even sure I did.

Seen the rear view mirror of my life so far, my drinking, and my struggle to change it, to regain any control, to set and stick with any limits, looks and feels like a form of insidious madness.

Alcohol dominated my waking thoughts, and my restless nightmares.

Every morning was a new opportunity to feel a helpless, totally lost, hungover and desperate.

Every evening another opportunity to show myself what a weak, drunk, failure I was.

And whilst this was my life for over 28 years, most people had no idea of what I was putting myself through.

I smiled, I laughed and at times, had the surface level happiness, which I took for joy, but in reality, it was only ever a paler, greyer shade of life, and I didn’t even know it.

And I tried to change my drinking.  My God I tried.

As a single mother to the most precious tender jewel of my son, I fought every day to be more than I was, to be who he deserved, but I wasn’t strong enough….

I did my best, and my best was cr@p….

The more I consumed alcohol, the more alcohol consumed me.

I wish I could write that the mountain of love I had for my son was enough for me to change my drinking, to get a grip of my drinking, to be stronger…but the truth is, I knew he would be better off without me.

I knew he would grieve for the loss of the lesser me, be wounded to his heart and soul, and still I believed that the mother I was back then, so far from what he wanted and deserved, was all I was. Was all I had to offer, and that I was simply never going to beat this thing, and never, ever going to be good enough.

Such hard words to write.

And then everything changed.

No drama or emotional electric shock jolted me out of my drinking.

I simply had a moment of awareness, a sudden infinitesimal kaleidoscope shift of awareness, that changed my view of possibility and reality, which resonated with me on the most fundamental level.

And, when that happened, I felt the years old, longed for sigh of relief rise up from somewhere deep within me.

A sigh that opened my eyes, my mind and my heart to a very different perspective of both myself and my relationship with alcohol, and I knew….I KNEW,  I could change.

I knew I could stop drinking.

I knew I could be different.

I knew I could be the woman and mother I longed to be

And in that moment of acceptance, I felt trust. I stopped fighting, and my personal yellow brick road back to peace of mind, joy, love of life and freedom started to reveal itself.

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This book contains the insights I have learnt on my journey back to safety, self-respect and ease as I released myself from my alcoholism, depression, my painful past, binge eating, and the feelings of never being deserving, never good enough, and back into the sunshine of peace of mind, happiness,  balance, love and success.

I know that changing your drinking is not hard, it does not take long, and it certainly doesn’t have to be a never again solution.

And my purpose in writing this book, is to detail the process of powerful change that has transformed every area of my LIFE, as well guiding 1000’s of clients world wide out of the pain of their drinking, and back into peace.

Please read this book in the order it is written. Do not skip to the end.

There is no, one single magic moment of change that you can jump too….this is a journey, a journey which starts where you are now, in your alcohol pain, and ends with you back into alcohol peace.

And there is a foundation, to your journey.  It is crucial that you are fully aware, and accept the truth of this foundation, because when you do, the rest of the journey makes perfect sense, and you will feel your excitement grow as you learn the deeper truths of your drinking, and the easy way to change it.

At the end of each chapter, I have listed the bullet points of the biggest insights for you to revisit.

As well as some powerful questions to help you deepen your awareness of who you are being when the desire to drink shows up.

Why?  Because with every change, it is vital that you keep in your awareness’s what you have learnt, to power you forward.

New information (thoughts) can slip out of your awareness.  Which is understandable.  You are used to your exhausted, outdated thinking around your drinking, and so those thought patterns are initially stronger.

However, when you absorb my words, and create your new perceptions, your thinking will change.

To make your change as easy as possible, I am sharing with you the powerful formula I give to my clients to keep them in their new awareness’s.

Here it is;

RECALL, REFLECT, RESET, REACT

Recall – Read the bullet points

Reflect – Reflect on the truth of them, you know they are true because you feel  it. You feel more settled, open, calm and hopeful.

Reset – The feelings of being settled, open, calm and hopeful, naturally reset you.  You come out of stress and anxiety, and closer to peace.

React – When you are closer to peace, you easily react (drink differently). them.

Are you reeady to end your drinking pain, to find freedom from your confusion, fear, anxiety and stress around alcohol, and to step firmly back into the incredible human you truly are?

It’s time.

Let’s dive straight in to the TRUTH about the root of your drinking…..

 

Next Chapter COMING SOON.

 

If you are ready to embrace your freedom, peace and control around alcohol, I invite you to join my private community, MidLIFE Women Taking Back Control of your Drinking, where I share all the insights from my book, as well as offer free training sessions, support and fun….now is your TIME, make it COUNT!  Here’s the LINK to request entry

 

 

Want to Change Your Relationship with Alcohol, this is the START……

Want to Change Your Relationship with Alcohol, this is the START……

Are you ready to step into a profound new awareness about your drinking trap, that will allow you to change your drinking with grace and ease? 

 

Then read this, let it settle, and then read it again, because it holds a very powerful truth that you can easily act on…..

 

You NEVER sit down at the end of the day, with a drink in front of you thinking;

 

“I’m really looking forward to drinking too much, to feeling anxious, irritable and out of control”

Or

“I’m so happy to know that tomorrow morning I will feel upset, hungover, disappointed and totally fed up with myself”

 

And yet, you KNOW, that these are the consequences, (the every time RESULTS) of your drinking…..

 

However you DO sit down at the end of the day, with a drink in front of you thinking;

 

“Thank God I can relax now – I can shut down my bloody mind chatter, I can have a break, feel a bit of peace, switch off, and let the day go”

 

The bottom line of your drinking struggle is, the INTENTION before you drink is to ‘feel better’, the RESULT, is you feel worse…..

 

And in those two sentences is exactly, and the ONLY reason why you are still trapped in your drinking, your drinking thinking, and the stress, anxiety, confusion and despair your drinking creates.

 

Your mind battle isn’t you vs alcohol….your mind battle is between;

 

The INTENTION behind your drinking –  to make you feel better.

And the RESULT of your drinking – that you feel worse, and in greater need of feeling better…….

 

And so the cycle continues.

 

Imagine now, if you no longer held the INTENTION that alcohol makes you feel better….

 

Imagine how differently you would drink, if alcohol no longer represented feeling better to you.

 

When the INTENTION of comfort is gone, you easily drink differently…..

 

So the one question I want you to ask yourself tonight, that will allow you to change your drinking is,

 

“What is the INTENTION behind my drinking, what do I want from this FIRST drink?”

 

Whatever answer comes up;

 

Relaxation

Peace of Mind,

Time out,

To feel less lonely or bored….

 

Take a breath, a long, slow deep breath, and ACT on your need….

 

And if you say you don’t know how….imagine a friend had said to you that they needed Relaxation, Time out etc, and what answer would you give them?

 

You will give the answer that is right for YOU!

 

Changing your drinking is not hard when you focus on the currently unknown INTENTION behind your drinking, because that’s where the answers are.

 

Changing your drinking, is very, very hard, when you focus on the known RESULTS of your drinking, because that is not the driver of your drinking.

 

I am currently writing my process of easy change in a book, ‘Insights from a (formerly) Drunk Mother – the process’

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