Did You Stay Dry This January, or Do You Feel Like You Are Drowning?

Did You Stay Dry This January, or Do You Feel Like You Are Drowning?

Dry January is the one month of the year where people are most committed to changing their drinking.

It’s a recognized 31 days alcohol break, where your friends and family are on board with your changes, cheering you on, removing temptation, joining you in your health and well being reset, and for all of those reasons (the main one being it has an expiry date), staying sober isn’t so much of a stress, more of an uplifting challenge with many participants in your own circle. An excellent foundation from which to achieve your sober days.

However, recent statistics show that by 5th January, 2.7 million had abandoned their Dry January alcohol reset!

2.7 million who were worried about their drinking and wanted to have a break, or make life long changes, have ‘given up’ by day 5!

Are you one of them? And if you are, what is different this January to previous ones where you sailed (ish) through the 31 days?

Does that sound like a question only a hermit could possibly ask? Someone who has lived in a cave for the last 13 months, cut off from any sort of world news?

Is that question even slightly insulting to you? Don’t I know what you are going through?

Life has become unpredictable (again).

You are in the 3rd Lockdown, COVID rates are soaring, hospitals are overflowing, schools are closed, you are(again), cut off from the physical contact and connection with your loves you crave, and that’s without all the normal feel good experiences of shopping, cinema, gyms, coffee shops etc all closed down too.

Of course you are drinking more, what else is there to comfort you, to bring you some sense of peace and calm in this turbulent Groundhog Day time? You are in more need of a drink, not less.

get that, I really do, I get that you are in more need of comfort, support, certainty, joy, peace and calm.

I get that you are in more need of companionship, connection, of ‘feeling better’.

And I know, in exactly the same way you do, that alcohol, does not, will not, CANNOT deliver any of the above, in fact it TAKES you further from them.

When times get harder, we tend to look for answers/comfort from the OUTSIDE world, and at the moment, the outside world is the problem, with Alcohol being a very large part of that outside world.

My intention and role as the Recovery Coach is to empower and support you, to bring you new awareness’s that allow for painless change, and here is an absolute truth that when you take it on board, will truly help you.

What you need to do, what you MUST do, to protect yourself, your health, your wellbeing, is to look INSIDE for the answers.

Inside YOU – the place where ALL the answers, the solutions, the comfort to every question, fear, anxiety and concern are, just waiting for you to access them.

Good Times pass as well as Bad Times, and when you look within in times of stress, and lean into your resourcefulness, you will re-balance and come back to you – the sober, relaxed you who isn’t looking for, does’t need an Outside world comfort.

You cannot change this situation at all. However you can change your PERCEPTION, your perspective of the situation, and by making the #Choice to shift your perspective, you are able to take a deep breath, have a different conversation with yourself, and the to easily deliver the comfort you are looking for.

The world doesn’t change, YOU do. Alcohol doesn’t change, YOU do, & when YOU change your perspective on the world around you, MIRACLES happen, fear and anxiety shift, & Alcohol becomes the take-it-or-leave it, occasional treat you want it to be.

Here’s some powerfully effective TIPS to support you gently shift your PERSPECTIVE

  • When you go into fear for a future you cannot know, go back to deep breathing, breath in for 7 out for 11 (the exhale is longer), this will bring you back from the future and into NOW – This is absolute truth.

This is a very powerful awareness – You cannot be anxious/fearful and be breathing deeply at the same time. It is a biological impossibility.

  • When you fear loss, go into profound #Gratitude for having what you fear losing
  • When you feel alone, be thankful for the time to slow down, and then make plans to re-connect via phone, Zoom, whatever works for you.

Whatever you are experiencing right now, your chosen perspective of your experience determines your need for comfort. Now sit with yourself quietly and explore, without judgement, what else you can shift to keep you safe

Then #Choose a PERSPECTIVE that delivers the comfort, peace, love and JOY, you lack and your need for a drink will disappear effortlessly. I promise you.

I have learnt so much from my own recent frightening COVID experience, which has been a gift to me, my life and my work with you.

Please take a look at my Rapid Alcohol Recovery Method page to understand more of my unique understanding and PERSPECTIVE on the role you have created for alcohol in your life and why it seems so hard to change.

Even if you choose to continue in your struggle for the next few weeks, months, please God not, years, you will get insight from my words there.

Be kind and gentle with yourself.


PS. If NOW is your time to change your drinking, effortlessly, here’s a Testimonial from a recent client who found changing her drinking easy and a joy. This is what’s waiting for you too.

“This has been the most powerful and enlightening process. My drinking changed in the first week, from a bottle and a half a night to nothing, and then a couple at the weekend which is what I wanted but thought I couldn’t have.

I feel so proud of myself and know that this is for life. I accept and forgive myself and my past wounds. I feel liberated and free and I feel me. This was so much more than a quit drinking program, of course it was because alcohol was not the problem. I will be telling everyone about you”

Here’s the link to my unique 6 week Rapid Alcohol Recovery Method page, in case you missed it earlier.

If my writing resonates with you, together we can change your drinking for life.

The only hard part of change is reaching out, so just hit reply and I will take you from there.

Finally, if you would like to understand more about my journey from 28 years of alcoholism, to peaceful freedom, take a look at my internationally acclaimed book, This Isn’t Me (click on the link HERE).I wrote it for my son, as an apology for his younger years, and as an attempt to explain the un-explainable.

It’s OK, Not to Feel OK.  Just Remember Your Drinking Makes You Feel Worse

It’s OK, Not to Feel OK. Just Remember Your Drinking Makes You Feel Worse

Another shift, another Lockdown, back to home schooling, business’s, coffee shops, closed. Back to an uncertainty that never really left you. All in all, LIFE seems to be on pause again, and it seems harder this time doesn’t it?

Now, I am a Re-Frame Queen ? I know how to shift my perspective to a view that supports me, that keeps me safe in every situation – & wow, with my brother’s dreadful, out of the blue, accident & appalling, life changing injuries last year, I really earned that crown!

But you don’t always have to brace yourself, pull your socks up, make the best of it, feel positive, or OK.

You don’t always have to walk on the Sunny Side of the street, sometimes it takes too much effort, and that’s OK too.

It’s OK, not to feel OK. ❤️

But it’s not OK, in your down times, to treat yourself carelessly, neglectfully – it’s not a reason to turn back to the non-comfort of ALCOHOL

When life is not OK, you must pause and recognise that what you truly need is to treat yourself with MORE Love, Care, Comfort & Attention to your needs.

When you take the time to pause, and breathe, you will notice your needs and be able to deliver them.

When you don’t take the time to pause and breathe, you go through your day, like the machine you are not, fueling your lack of care for yourself with alcohol to ‘keep you going’ to help you relax, to calm you down to brighten your day, when all you really need to do is STOP❤️

Here’s some simple tips to help you ❤️

  • Create a relaxed daily schedule that includes FUN
  • Walk outside
  • Rest – tell your loves you need time out, even if its just 20 minutes to be alone, to lie on your bed, to re-calibrate, and take it!
  • Drink more water (I am so back into my herbal teas – Lemon & Spiced Ginger)
  • Eat FOOD – simple food prepared with LOVE
  • Reach out when you need Comfort, Communication, Connection
  • Read books that engage/inspire, that you can get lost in
  • Watch TV that makes you laugh
  • Move gently through your days ❤️


All this WILL pass, you just have to DECIDE how you will come through it.

My 6 week Rapid Alcohol Recovery Method process is unique. It has a clear structure that is flexible and lovingly releases all your fears and blocks around what alcohol is in your life, why the methods you have used so far have make it feel it will be to hard to make lifelong changes, and gifts you back the woman you truly are, connected, accepting and at peace with you and life.

Be kind & gentle with yourself

Sonia x

PS. Please let 2020 be the very last year you struggle to change your drinking. It is NOT hard, I promise you.

Changing your drinking changes every area of your life. It is a miraculous transformation from loss and pain to peace and freedom.

Here’s a message I got just yesterday from a relieved client (there’s more on my Testimonials page).

“This is my FIRST sober Christmas in 15 years….I had 2 glasses of champagne on Christmas Day, and another glass on a family Zoom party, Boxing Day…..my family are so proud of me and I am so proud of me…….this is the life I dreamed of……thank you Sonia”

It doesn’t’ matter where you are now, or how long you have been there, the life you are searching for is within you all the time, you just don’t know how to access it. I do.

If now is your time to change, to put you first, to gift yourself the ease, peace and freedom you deserve, take a look at my completely unique, soul and life expanding 6 week Rapid Alcohol Recovery Method page, and and reach out to me, TODAY.

That first email is the only hard part of change, I PROMISE YOU ❤

Finally, if you would like to understand more about my journey from 28 years of alcoholism, to peaceful freedom, take a look at my internationally acclaimed book, This Isn’t Me (click on the link HERE).I wrote it for my son, as an apology for his younger years, and as an attempt to explain the un-explainable.

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