Top Tips for a Sober Life, in FLOW

Top Tips for a Sober Life, in FLOW

Out walking on a grey wet day, nestled among the winter debris, I saw a patch of beautiful snow drops.

A perfect patch of deceptively delicate white flowers, in their perfect size and perfect shape, sturdy and strong in the elements, just doing what they do, growing in the natural flow of life.

And it really struck me, as I watched them unperturbed to be surrounded by mess and mud, how always continues to just flow, regardless of external influences, people, places, and /or situations, and the easiest way to life in peace and ease, is simply to stay in the flow you cannot change, you cannot slow down, you cannot project forward, or bring back the past, or even shift the direction of.

Life does what it does. It starts, it flows, it grows, it ends. And so the cycle repeats itself.

By staying in the flow of life means you are always moving forward, with what you have in the present moment.

Not staying in flow, means dragging your past, fearing your future.

Not being in flow takes from you.

It saps your energy, it exhausts you, it makes life hard, too hard, and so you drink, or eat, or gamble or shop – you learn to take an action to ease the ‘hardness’ of life.

Life in flow, life is easier,past hurts and pains are let go in your slip stream, fears of your future don’t exist, you are only in the present moment, enjoying the ride.

Changing your action of drinking (or eating/shopping/gambling) is as easy, and as natural as the flow of life.

So here are my TOP TIPS to support you let go of pain, stay in the flow of life, and release your need to drink, effortlessly.

  • Notice when your feelings shift from life feeling easier, to life feeling hard (that is when you step out of the flow of life). Scan your body, check in with any contracted feelings, where are they? In your stomach, your shoulder?
  • Take long slow, deep breathes (a lovely tip is to make the exhale longer),
  • Focus on your contracted area and send LOVE there, shine warm, healing love on your contraction (they are your fears) and feel the expansion and relief in the light of your attention and care – you will be amazed at the shift from this simple exercise.
  • List all of the people and things you are profoundly Grateful for, even if they are no longer with you, be Grateful for the gift they were in your life
  • Look for beauty, it is everywhere – in the faces of your children, in a smile, in a bird in the tree, in the rain – you just have to LOOK
  • Create food that has beauty in its nourishment, choose calming herbal teas – add a drop of honey for a real treat.
  • Rest when you need to, read a book, watch Netflix – the washing up can wait, you needs can’t.

When you take responsibility to gift yourself the time to do these easy, self-loving tips, you will regain the simple peace in your life, that will see you through, keep you connected, resilient and the woman you deserve to be without any need for a drink to make you ‘feel better’

If my words resonate, if you ‘get’ my energy, my way of thinking, I am the right person to help you and you can change your drinking, effortlessly, from your first session.

There is a clear structure to your drinking, and it is universal, and a clear structure to your release, also universal, and I bring every aspect of it in awareness and the easy steps to freedom, together for you in my unique, simple, 6 week, 1-2-1 package, The Rapid Alcohol Recovery Method, coaching process that gifts you a ‘magical’ transformation, with grounded practical, self-loving roots that support you whatever life throws.

I use the word ‘magical’ intentionally, because I understand completely that you are a powerful interwoven mixture of the physical and spiritual, and that all aspects of who you are, and what you need, has to be in loving alignment for you to find peace for you to be free of your drinking pain, and that is why my clients enjoy huge success without any struggle or stress – ultimately, you are re-connected with the wonder of you.

My work is NEW, not hard, and there is a very big difference in the energy and ‘effort’ involved.

If now is your time, contact me. You only have TODAY to make the changes you deserve to ensure a peaceful, loving tomorrow.

Be kind and gentle with yourself

Sonia x

PS. I love to share my clients joy at being free from thier drinking pain and shame, so here’s a message I received recently. If you would like to see more, check out my TESTIMONIALS page x

“I am so proud and happy in who I am, your process is amazing, I enjoy a glass of wine or two, sometimes even three and then I STOP, easily. I want to recommend you to EVERYONE. It is not a ‘cost’, it is an investment in my life”

Finally, if you would like to understand more about my journey from 28 years of alcoholism, to peaceful freedom, take a look at my internationally acclaimed book, This Isn’t Me (click on the link HERE).I wrote it for my son, as an apology for his younger years, and as an attempt to explain the un-explainable.

How Have You DECIDED To Drink?

How Have You DECIDED To Drink?

You know that your drinking has to change. It just has to.

You are heartsick of waking up feeling dehydrated, disappointed, and frustrated that your promise to drink one glass, ended up being one bottle (again).

You feel overwhelmed before you are even out of bed at the day ahead, too tired to deal with the kids, snappy and impatient where you want to be loving, hugging, re-assuring to them, and to you. You look at their trusting faces, and want to weep. And you know you cannot continue to live like this.

You are hurt. Your family are hurt. And your drinking leaves you feeling less of the woman you dream of being. So you decide (again), to end your awful drinking cycle

So, what decisions have you made around your drinking?

  • Have you decided to stop completely?

Or, like most of my clients who now have peace and freedom around alcohol,

  • Have you decided that you are going to enjoy a social drink, without any fear of relapse, safe in the knowledge that alcohol has no power over you, and you have no emotional attachment to a bottle of liquid?

And having made a decision that truly sits with you,

  • What is your plan to achieve it?
  • What steps are you going to take?

Many incredible women opt for a method that involves forms of ‘mindful‘ drinking. Do you do that too?

Does your plan involve counting units, marking off days on a calendar or phone app when you don’t drink, and marking on days where you will allow yourself a drink?

Being mindful of what/how much you drink, rather than mindful of when/why you drink?

There’s a BIG difference and, it is one of the differences that makes the difference……..

Do you spend a lot of energy and effort spent focusing on alcohol being the problem to be contained and controlled?

Energy that takes from you on the days you need it most, when you are tired, lower, feeling unappreciated, or more alone.

And those are the day when control, of any sort, goes out the window.

Do you recognise you here?

Why? Because you drink in a way you don’t like, feel you have no control over, for one reason and ONE reason only.

To ‘feel better’ and that craving to deliver your ‘feeling better’ is the driver of your drinking.

So when you are in need of ‘feeling better’, and you then try to deny yourself your learnt method of comfort, alcohol, the more energy you need to expend on trying to place control and restrictions on what you drink, and the more you want to drink, (here’s your stop/start cycle simplified).

You are focusing completely on what you don’t want to do, and that focus makes the desire even stronger. Agreed?

You need to take steps that take nothing from you, and gift you the peace and freedom you deserve.

You need to re-connect with your basic needs of warmth, safety, nourishment, connection – can you see, maybe for the first time, that these can be applied beyond just your physical self?

There is a clear structure to your drinking, that is the same as every other person who struggles to change the way they drink, and there is a clear, easy structure to changing it, for you and for anyone else who struggles.

That knowledge is why my clients enjoy such huge, effortless success.

And here is another simple truth, learned from my own truly effortless and joyful sudden recovery after 28 years of drinking hell (there is no other word for my struggle and fear), and from my extensive research, training’s and coaching.

Under your physical skin, inside your mind, in your powerful inner world, you function the way all humans do – yes you can be very different in life situations, personally and professionally, but the human design is universal.

You are magical mix of the physical, emotional and the spiritual, and you are not designed to live as separate parts of your one whole.

Your glorious whole has basic needs that keep you connected, resilient and at peace. And it is when your basic needs are not met, that you drink. That is an absolute truth.

Traditional change therapies (I really don’t like that word!), focus on starting with changing your physical action of drinking, and relying on your not drinking, to bring your emotional and spiritual ‘parts’ on board, giving you connection and peace.

To me, that is the hardest way, and the most likely to ‘fail’ you, as the methods you are not working in your natural flow and synchronicity, but are instead attempting to bridge the gap physically, and then turning to heal your emotional and spiritual inner void, which is done, not by digging down and painfully dragging up your past (that’s not where the comfort is needed), but by offering you comfort in the NOW, by delivering on your basic needs to peacefully re-connect and realign you.

I understand that bridging the gap through the physical action of not drinking doesn’t work. The bridge of not drinking is a sticking plaster that does not stick. It is a bridge with no foundation that gets blown in the winds of life, leaving your void both vulnerable and empty of resources to protect you.

You must fill your void first, by knowing and nurturing your physical, emotional and spiritual wholeness, which can be done with grace and ease, and changes your drinking, effortlessly. I promise you.

To help you step gently on to the first steps of your journey to alcohol peace and freedom, I have created a lovely FREE workbook, The 10 Questions that Will Change Your Drinking, Effortlessly. This alone will shift your awareness away from your focus on alcohol being your fight, and back into you being your comfort.

To truly step into your life of peace and freedom from your alcohol stress, struggle and pain, you simply need to fill your the void you recognise, without fear of failure, added stress or any sense of struggle or deprivation. And that’s my zone of genius, through a process that I am very proud to have created, and own. Here’s what I offer;

My unique 6 week 1-2-1Rapid Alcohol Recovery Method has a completely different understanding to why you are trapped in your drinking patterns, and a completely different approach to ending it, without stress or struggle.

My process starts with bringing you into conscious awareness, the truth that your drinking action is only ever a reflection on your inner sepeartedness – your void.

In your very first session, you easily gain awareness of the inner conflict around your alcohol beliefs and you, that need to be realigned, and you feel that re-alignment instantly.

From there, changing your drinking is inevitable. It is simple as that.

My method is a series of new awareness’s, backed up by simple strategies that shift you lovingly back into the power and peace that comes with true alignment.

Here’s what some of my clients have to say about the freedom they enjoy from going through my Rapid Alcohol Recovery Method process


“All in all, my drinking has cost my family over £200,000 for me to feel more detached, not in control and less of a human being.

In my sessions with Sonia, and interim support I feel strong, confident and more at peace with myself than I can ever remember.

Alcohol is back in its proper place of just being a liquid and not some kind of all-consuming demon.

I never believed after all these years that this could happen. My Family and I thank you with all our hearts”

Ms N K


“Since we had our first session something amazing is happening. I feel as if I’m undergoing a total mind-set shift. I’ve been thinking about all the things we discussed, and I’ve been using the techniques you taught me, and I find that I really haven’t wanted to drink alcohol and if I have on a couple of occasions (I don’t never drink) I’ve easily stopped at 1-2 glasses. It seems incredible, but it’s true.

From where I easily stand now, I just cannot imagine that I would ever have wanted to abuse alcohol in the past and I feel strong and at peace. I have realized that I am the best friend I’ll ever have, thank you Sonia”



I know that everything you need to be free is within you right now, it always was, it always will be, it is who you are, and I know how to take you there.

I use my personal experience, as well as integrating my skills as a Master of NLP, Master Coach, Master of TimeLine Therapy and Soul Plan Reading Practitoner, training to guide you there.

For more tips, insights and live training’s, make sure you join my private Facebook community, and take advantage of my absolute passion for effortless change. Just click on the link to request entry From Alcohol Pain to Peace

Be kind & gentle with yourself.



P.S. If you would like to understand more about my journey from 28 years of alcoholism, to peaceful freedom, take a look at my internationally acclaimed book, This Isn’t Me (click on the link HERE).

How Have You DECIDED To Drink?

10 QUESTIONS to Change Your Drinking, Effortlessly

Did you wake this morning with a thud of regret over last nights drinking?

Did your one glass become 3, then the bottle and maybe more?

Do you remember going to bed?

Or maybe the upset of last nights drinking makes you wish you could forget……….?

You didn’t plan to get drunk. You never do. No-one plans to be a neglectful, emotionally absent mother/wife/partner and yet, that’s where your drinking took you again………

  • How long ago did your drinking start to worry you?
  • When did your pick-me-up-glass of wine, slide into a bottle that drags-you-down?
  • Was it last week, last month, last year, or maybe you can’t even remember when it seems so long ago…..?
  • And how many times have you tried to break your drinking habit?
  • Once, twice, 100 times?
  • And finally, how has your ‘failure’ to change your drinking made you feel about you, and alcohol?

​I know it made me frightened, confused and isolated.

I would look at others who could take-it-or-leave it in awe at their strength, and feel despair at my weakness.

Every thing I knew about my drinking compounded my fears. I knew what alcohol was doing to me physically, emotionally, financially and spiritually (although I didn’t know what the spiritual affects where, I felt the immense pain of of not being me).

And in all my knowing, in the information that was available everywhere, I could not change.

Does this resonate with you too?

But the one thing I never questioned, never investigated, just accepted blindly, was the accepted information around problem drinking – that alcohol was the problem – and how hard change would be. And so I stayed trapped.

Until I had a moment of awareness, that led to 1000 other awareness’s that opened my mind to different information, with a different name, WISDOM.

Information is rigid, Wisdom is flexible.

Information is created from other’s experiences, views, testing.

Wisdom is in you, about you and is an easy, joy to act on. It fits you, because it is you.

But while you continue to accept and abdicate your responsibility to relying/believing others information (even though you know it hasn’t worked for you ), you close the door to your Wisdom, and to the freedom from your drinking pain you deserve and desire.

To help you access the insights and new information that leads to your innate Wisdom, that knows and both gently laughs (and weeps at your struggle) at the idea that alcohol is the problem you will have to fight/be vigilant/mindful of, forever, I have created these 10 QUESTIONS, That will Change Your Drinking, Effortlessly.

Just download them, sit with, journal and reflect on you answers, and you will access your wisdom.

The truth within you that tells you everything you need to know and understand to release your alcohol fears, and have the clarity to accept, and act on, the simple self-loving actions that create your clear route from your alcohol pain to peace.

Here’s the link 10 QUESTIONS to Change Your Drinking, Effortlessly

Be kind and gentle with yourself

Sonia xx

PS. I love to share my clients joy at being free from thier drinking pain and shame, so here’s a message I received recently. If you would like to see more, check out my TESTIMONIALS page x

“I am so proud and happy in who I am, your process is amazing, I enjoy a glass of wine or two, sometimes even three and then I STOP, easily. I want to recommend you to EVERYONE. It is not a ‘cost’, it is an investment in my life”

Finally, if you would like to understand more about my journey from 28 years of alcoholism, to peaceful freedom, take a look at my internationally acclaimed book, This Isn’t Me (click on the link HERE).I wrote it for my son, as an apology for his younger years, and as an attempt to explain the un-explainable.

10 Questions to Free You from Your Alcohol Pain, Effortlessly

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