Jun 26, 2020
It’s my birthday next week and my Golden Ticket of a son is taking a half day for a secret treat (God help me – I imagine I will be climbing something and sweating buckets of fear knowing his idea of a ‘treat’……) He told his work I will be 75, when in fact I will only be 56 years young!
A grateful, blessed 56 years young. Grateful and blessed to have these years of absolute joy of life that I didn’t think was possible.
I am older, saggier, funnier, kinder, more at peace with myself , more comfortable in my increasing wrinkly skin than I have ever been, and beyond grateful to have another sober birthday and the opportunity to see, feel and hear the wonders of life all around me. Wonders I didn’t even know I existed during my drinking years.
I wanted to be sober so badly, and I knew all the things I didn’t want any more of, the headaches, the shame, the pretending I was ok, when I was anything but. The exhaustion of always being the life and soul, minus any real life or soul, the lying, the hiding my drinking and the trying to convince myself I was in control.
Do you recognise any of this?
The truth is, I had no idea what a sober life, or any other life was, but my God I do now, and I want you to know too.
You know that your drinking takes from you, and your loves. You see, feel and hear the distress that comes from your nightly ‘pick you up’ that ‘drags you down’.
But have you ever really stopped and thought of the true costs of your drinking?
Yes, there are the money ‘costs’, and you can probably recoup the cash. You can save a bit here, cut back a bit there, it’s not so bad (until it is).
But I’m talking about the soul wounding deeper and much bigger costs. The costs of joy, peace, happiness, love, self-respect, self-esteem and all the other ‘self’s’ that when in place, gift you the wonder of a life worth living, not the half-life of your drinking.
How many of the life’s loving moments with your children, your partner, your family and friends have you lost? The memories of joy that are at best fogged over, and at worst you deprived yourself of because of your hangover, your alcohol worry and stress, your fearful thinking and your sleepless nights?
How many days of peace has your drinking cost you? How much laughter, love, contentment, and fun?
How much success has your drinking cost you? How many times have you not put yourself forward, fearful that you are flawed and lesser because of your drinking?
How much of the capable, less resilient, less amazing, sexy, confident and wonderful you has gone down the hatch with your wine?
These are costs that take to much from you, these are the costs the rob you of the joy of a life worth living.
You have been gifted this one potentially glorious opportunity to be your very best self, to bask in a Universe that loves you, with people who love and respect you, with a YOU that loves and respects you, and no matter how many years you live, this one time opportunity of life, is painfully short.
You can’t get any of the lost joys back, not one minute, of one day, of one month of however many years you have struggled with your drinking, but you can make the decision to change, for life, TODAY, and gift yourself, and your loves, the life you all deserve, for the many years of life you have ahead of you.
The peace, love, joy and wonder of this life is priceless, completely priceless.
I have women who say to me I would do/pay anything to be free from my drinking. It would mean everything to me to be free, and yet, when it comes down to it, there is something else, someone else more important in their life.
Something that some else needs, and being the giving, loving woman that you are, you decide to put yourself last again and continue doing what they have always done, trying and ‘failing’ and so stay trapped in your stop/start drinking cycles and all the associated unhappiness and despair that comes with it, instead of investing in yourself, even though you know that what is best for you, is best for everyone you love.
Your drinking costs you to much LIFE, yet it is YOUR decision to pay that cost, over and over again, and so feel the loss of you, if not everyday, certainly every day you want to change the way you drink and find that you cannot.
This is my 6th sober birthday, I don’t have big plans, I don’t need them. I have love, and peace and harmony and gratitude, the most profound gratitude for the gift of freedom and joy of the life I now have, the freedom to be who I am without shame of fear of relapse. The freedom that gifts me the glorious inner knowing that I am good enough, always.
There is no greater gift than this.
If you are heartsick of your drinking, and know that you have to try something new, something empowering, something effortless and something that will change the way you drink for life, NOW, I have the answer.
I developed the unique 6 week, 1-2-1 RAPID ALCOHOL RECOVERY METHOD, coaching process, from my own sudden joyful sober moment, the knowledge and learning’s I have invested in over the last 6 years, as well as my training’s as a Master Practitioner of NLP and a Master Coach.
Through this incredible, life changing/drink changing process, my clients enjoy a level of success unheard of in traditional therapies.
The ONLY hard part of changing the way you drink is reaching out, from there, I will do the rest. I will guide you back to the life you deserve and still able to enjoy a social drink effortlessly.
You just have to message me, HERE
Be kind and gentle with yourself.
Sonia
PS, I love to share my clients joy at their freedom, so here’s a recent Testimonial
“My life has changed completely. I feel rested and at peace even on the busiest of days. I have created 15 minute slots in my day for me and this one small change, as well as my 5 minute morning routine has bought me back into balance. All those years I thought I was struggling with alcohol when I was really struggling with the lack of me. Thanks darling Sonia, your vision is so different from any other approach and it just works”
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There will never be a time that is more right for change than today. You already live in fear, why not make the choice now to live in freedom? Here’s the Rapid Alcohol Recovery Method link again in case you missed it earlier
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If you would like to understand more about my journey from 28 years of alcoholism, to peaceful freedom, take a look at my internationally acclaimed book,This Isn’t Me (click on the link HERE).I wrote it for my son, as an apology for his younger years, and as an attempt to explain the un-explainable.
Jun 22, 2020
How long have you felt heartbroken about your drinking?
How many weeks, months or years have you spent trying to control your thoughts, feelings and cravings for your pick-you-up the knocks-you-down?
How hard has it become to pretend you feel happy and relaxed when you don’t?
Or in pretending you are at peace and present for your family, when really are watching the clock tick too slowly toward’s Wine O’Clock, that blessed time of the day when you can finally relax and have your first glass of wine, after giving up on the daily battle you have in the run up to that first glass of wine?
And finally, how long have you been trying to convince yourself that your drinking isn’t a problem, doesn’t concern you, doesn’t take joy from your life, when you know deep inside it does and yet the thought of change frightens you?
The whole sad alcohol ‘problem’ is an exhausting mess and the methods you read and hear about, that make perfect sense, just don’t work for you, and you have no idea why.
But it doesn’t have to be this way, you can change your drinking, easily and you don’t have to stop completely because ‘never again’ is not your only option………..
Just to control your drinking would be enough, wouldn’t it? To have the freedom to chose when/how you drink and you just don’t know how to achieve it.
Most of the amazing women I talk to want the ‘freedom to control their drinking’, a strangely conflicting statement which I always gently challenge, because control isn’t freedom………
Of course to find yourself finally in control of your drinking is a fantastic step forward, when you have previously felt so out of control, but the truth is, control is the equivalent of an electronic leg tag.
You have made a huge effort and you have obeyed your self-imposed rules, and learnt to live, on the whole and in comfort, within the boundaries and strategies of avoidance around alcohol you have created for yourself.
And when the going is good, you are rocking your control.
You see, hear and feel all the benefits of being in control. You feel proud, happy and a winner, and because of these wonderful feelings, every aspect of your life improves – your home life is more peaceful, life is more joyful, life is gooooood!
However, relying on ‘Control, like Willpower, is simply a way of keeping you ‘locked in’ on your promises, and like the electronic tagging device, there is always the added weight and the unnatural flashing light of it in your awareness, both of which take energy.
And here’s an absolute truth, on days when you are thinking/ feeling good about yourself and the way you view the world, you believe that your control/willpower is working.
However on those wonderful days, because of the way you are thinking and feeling, you don’t want a drink and its easy to say ‘No’.
Then on days where you feel lower in energy – maybe over tired, hungry, alone, unappreciated, unheard, unloved, in need of comfort and support, you waver, you believe your ‘control/willpower weakens and you drink.
And you know the rest. You feel a failure (again) and you are marched back into your alcohol prison and drinking cycle, all control seemingly abandoned, until you try again, and harder, placing yourself in tighter restrictions, which takes even more energy to stay in control.
You only need control/willpower to stop yourself doing something you really want to do, and you drink in a way you don’t like to make yourself ‘feel better’. So, on tougher, lower days, you find yourself needing to control your method of ‘feeling better’ – that’s where the sense of deprivation, loss, sadness comes in.
You are not designed to live in pain and unhappiness, or to deny yourself comfort and support, you have just forgotten how to deliver the ‘feeling better’ you are looking for, and so you turn to alcohol.
Freedom is completely different, it is limitless, it is living without the fear of relapse, it is peace and grace, and it is a very, very different in energy from Control.
Again, you drink to make yourself feel better. But Control isn’t long lasting ‘feeling better’. Control is a superficial sticking plaster – it isn’t the inside out ‘feeling better’ you need, FREEDOM is.
The freedom I am talking about, is the freedom from your ‘Alcohol is the SOLUTION’ belief. Control leaves that belief safely in place, ready and waiting to comfort you when you are most in need, the very time when you most need control.
Freedom is being connected with yourself, in awareness of your needs and lovingly delivering them.
Freedom is trust in you. Control is lack of trust, hoping to learn to trust in you.
Freedom takes no energy, instead it gifts you more.
Control takes energy, and when you need it most, it control drains you most.
Do you recognise my writing?
Can you see and feel that Freedom from your drinking is where you want to be?
- The freedom to choose if and when you drink?
- The freedom of no longer being afraid of ‘failure’, the freedom to live the life of peace and grace you deserve?
If you are ready for that freedom, I know the easiest, most empowering, joyful way, and that is through the Rapid Alcohol Recovery Method. My unique 6 week coaching process is a powerful process of new awareness’s around your alcohol struggle, that allows you to release the the emotional cravings that overwhelm you, that you drink to ‘comfort’. It is the only process that recognizes the clear structure you go through every time you pick up the first glass after a day spent on control, and reverses that structure so that alcohol doesn’t even enter your thinking.
Developed to explain and recreate easy change to painful drinking, it is based on my own journey of 28 years of alcohol struggle and stress, and it is the exact process that took me back to ME, the me who never ‘needs’ to drink or eat myself silly to feel better. The incredible women who commit to this easy journey enjoy a level of success unheard of in traditional quit drinking therapies, and it is the journey to freedom on offer to you, no Control or Willpower required.
If you are ready to change your drinking, to forget about control and find your freedom, I am here.
Reaching out is the ONLY hard part of change, and it shows that you are already brave.
Don’t waste another day, week, month or year struggling with alcohol the way you have been for the last day’s, weeks, months and years. If you want to change your drinking, and you are ready to invest in you, the change starts TODAY, by clicking HERE to contact me.
Be kind and gentle with yourself
Sonia x
PS, I love to share my clients joy at their freedom, so here’s a recent Testimonial
“My life has changed completely. I feel rested and at peace even on the busiest of days. I have created 15 minute slots in my day for me and this one small change, as well as my 5 minute morning routine has bought me back into balance. All those years I thought I was struggling with alcohol when I was really struggling with the lack of me. Thanks darling Sonia, your vision is so different from any other approach and it just works”
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There will never be a time that is more right for change than today. You already live in fear, why not make the choice now to live in freedom? Here’s the Rapid Alcohol Recovery Method link again in case you missed it earlier
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If you would like to understand more about my journey from 28 years of alcoholism, to peaceful freedom, take a look at my internationally acclaimed book,This Isn’t Me (click on the link HERE).I wrote it for my son, as an apology for his younger years, and as an attempt to explain the un-explainable.
Jun 17, 2020
In this time of huge uncertainty, it is hardly surprising the alcohol sales have increased, or rather soared. One report states that in March there was an increase of alcohol sales £199 MILLION and that one distributor announced recorded sales of 255,000 extra bottles in ONE DAY, and that 55% more people are drinking daily! I mean, WOW!
And even though we now have more freedom, I doubt this is party drinking.
Its not normal for us to be separated, to not physically hug or kiss our loves, and on top of that, you are stuck at home, maybe home schooling, maybe furloughed, and feeling very uncertain about a future that no-one can predict. And so you drink and your evening glass has become a bottle and a must.
You only drink to make yourself ‘feel better’, and living in this strange and shifting reality, you feel in need of more ‘comfort’, not less, but your drinking doesn’t comfort you.
However you know that your drinking doesn’t make you feel better. You feel much worse, not just physically, but emotionally too. You are more tired, have less energy, less of the peaceful loving feeling you opened the bottle to find, less of the woman you truly are and less of the mother you want to be to your children.
And how do you know that? Well, you feel it in the lack of calm within your home, and you see it in the tense faces of your loved ones – no matter how you try to hide it, they always know when you have been drinking.
And so you have realized that this must drink, must now stop. But you can’t stop. And even worse, now, on top of all the stresses of this situation, you have the added, claustrophobic winter duvet weight of your drinking laid heavily over every aspect of your life – because make no mistake, your drinking affects every area of who you are, and what you.
So, what stops you gifting yourself the freedom and peace you deserve, now, when you need it most?
Some of the amazing women I speak to, who are brave enough to reach out to me and love the sound of the Rapid Alcohol Recovery Method process, want the freedom of the Testimonials page, and who know that my work resonates with them, and know that they will have the freedom to choose whether they drink or not socially, in just 6 weeks, say the ‘cost’ of signing up is too much right now.
And I get that, I truly do, I struggled for 28 years to change my drinking, and at that time, probably would have thought seriously about the ‘cost’ of £1500 being too much, too far out of reach, as well as frightened of failing again. I wasn’t able to believe I could change and I was fearful of who/how I would be/move in life without alcohol, all of which paralyzed me into inaction.
But here’s the thing, and this is said to you with absolute love from one good, kind woman to another who has been where you are, putting on a brave face, glossing over your the pain of your drinking and the fears and anxieties around alcohol, that wake you in the night, there is NO COST to the life of freedom and peace that comes from no longer feeling exhausted, a failure and controlled by bloody alcohol.
Freedom from your drinking has no price, it is priceless.
Here’s what I know to be 100 true, there are no mysteries around why you drink, and no mysteries as to how to change, so no fear of it not working for you. There is no failure. All there is, is a different approach.
This is the approach that knows that the traditional methods of ‘don’t pick up the glass’ is both the wrong place to start and the hardest way, I know that 100% to be true, and I know what does work and why.
The Rapid Alcohol Recovery Method is an investment, not a cost. It is the only investment you will make for a lifetime of understanding, compassion and peace around alcohol. This unique process is effortless.
The Rapid Alcohol Recovery Method takes you on the joyful journey back into the woman you truly are. The resourceful, resilient, peaceful, loving, maybe slightly mad (in a good way, or maybe that’s just me…..), woman you love to be and who your loves have missed, because of the way you drink.
You can choose to live in this uncertain time (for who knows how long), without investing in you. Yes, you will have the extra cash stored for a rainy day, still in your daily drinking struggle, longing for freedom and innocently unaware that your drinking causes so many of your rainy days, or you can stop, pause, take a deep breath and own the truth of what I have written, and step up, commit to YOU, and in doing so, take back the freedom and peace you have so long surrendered to alcohol.
Now is the time for change. Not next month, or next year, or when the job situation becomes clearer. By waiting for a ‘better situation’, you stay stuck in a ‘worse one’, in your painful, unhappy and physically and emotionally expensive drinking.
I know that the only hard part of changing the way you drink, is the reaching out, so if you are ready, just contact me HERE, with your name, and i will do the rest.
Be kind and gentle with yourself
Sonia
Ps. Here’s a very recent joyful Client Testimonial. I absolutely respect privacy, so never publish names.
“I am 16 weeks sober & during Lockdown! I have never achieved this before and there is no stress of struggle or anxiety. It feels unbelievable and yes, I have joy. Thank you Sonia, thank you”
This what is waiting for you! x
Finally, if you would like to understand more about my journey from 28 years of alcoholism, to peaceful freedom, take a look at my internationally acclaimed book,This Isn’t Me (click on the link HERE).I wrote it for my son, as an apology for his younger years, and as an attempt to explain the un-explainable.
