20 Self-Discovery Questions to living your MidLIFE Dream

20 Self-Discovery Questions to living your MidLIFE Dream

MidLIFE is the most exciting time of LIFE.

You have experience and wisdom that makes you more valuable than the most precious of gems.

And now is time for you to use everything you have learnt, to put you first and to live your LIFE, you way, on your terms.

So what DO you want more of?

Happiness, Peace of Mind, a new Career, Travel, flourishing Relationships?

I know that to fully experience your LIFE of Happiness, Fulfilment, Peace of Mind, Purpose and JOY,  you have to know exactly what the LIFE you dream of looks like. 

Because clarity on what your MidLIFE Dreams is, is the foundation of every step you take.

When you have clarity, you can consistently make decisions that move you forward quickly.

But without clarity, you stay in the sticky heavy mud of confusion, and your decisions making process lack the conviction you need to stay on track.

The truth is, what you wanted in your younger years, is not necessarily what your heart longs for now.

The world of ‘stuff’ – the house / car / expensive clothes, don’t have the same appeal, in MidLIFE, you are searching for more meaning to your LIFE.

To re-connecting with your truest self, who can never be found in ‘stuff’.

I know that to discover your MidLIFE Dream, you must take a deep dive into your inner world – the world that is so personal just to you, and exists, not in your external LIFE situations or circumstances, but in the world behind your eyes. 

This is where all your LIFE Hopes, Filters, your Beliefs, your Strengths and Fears live.

This is where you have learnt to perceive LIFE, who you are, what you deserve and your level of Happiness, Health & HEALING.

But because you can’t ‘SEE’ your inner world, you can be very confused by yourself, your actions, your choices.

To help you start your deeply personal journey of creating your MidLIFE Dream, I have created my 20 Self-Discovery Questions to Living your MidLIFE Dream.

So, grab yourself a cup of tea, get yourself cosy, and start your Self-Discovery journey.


  1. Describe how living my Dream MidLIFE dream LIFE Look, Sound and Feel like to me?
  2. How many weeks/months/YEARS have I wanted my LIFE to change?
  3. When was the last time I did something towards living my Dream MidLIFE that made me feel a little scared or uncomfortable?
  4. When I felt a little scared or uncomfortable, what did I DO to comfort myself?
  5. Did the ACTION I took move me powerfully or hesitantly forward towards my Dream MidLIFE?
  6. In what ways have I grown as a person in the last year?
  7. What do I need to Know, Trust and BELIEVE to be true about myself, that would allow me to ACT in ways that will take me, with confidence to my Dream MidLIFE?
  8. What RESOURCES do I need, what do I need to LEARN that would take me closer to my Dream MidLIFE?
  9. What am I doing on a daily/weekly/monthly/yearly basis to improve my MidLIFE?
  10. What does ‘failure’ mean to me?
  11. How do I REACT to perceived criticism?
  12. How does perceived criticism make me FEEL ?
  13. Does perceived criticism make me change my direction in LIFE?
  14. What needs to be in place for me to speak my TRUTH?
  15. What will happen if I DO take DAILY ACTIONS to move me forward to me Dream MidLIFE?
  16. What will happen if I DON’T take DAILY ACTIONS to move me forward to me Dream MidLIFE?
  17. Am I prepared to live less than I deserve?
  18. Am I prepared to take my unfulfilled Dream MidLIFE desires, to my grave?
  19. What SMALL step do I COMMIT to TODAY to move me forward?
  20. What will I say YES to NOW, that will make a difference TODAY?

NOTES; Re-read your answers and note down any common threads. 

What do they mean?  What do they tell you about the lens through which you see yourself and the DECISIONS you make when you think of living your Dream MidLIFE?

Share with me your thoughts


Hi, I’m Sonia

The pain of my 28 years of alcoholism, crippling depressions, grief & binge eating, and the sudden peace and freedom I found, through new awareness’s, insights, and the simple tools within me that I didn’t even know existed, has become my purpose in creating powerful LIFE transformations for you, by taking you on a journey of Self-Discovery through Compassionate Self-Inquiry.

I know that you are only stuck in any area of LIFE because of what you BELIEVE to be true of yourself, your struggle and the world around you.

I also know that your BELIEFS are a Choice, and that Freedom, Happiness, Health & THRIVING are Choices too.


I’m a happy mama, a spiritual searcher, dog lover, bad singer, avid reader and professionally, I wear two hats!

  1. Coaching MidLIFE Women to THRIVING, in the next chapters of LIFE, through my Happiness Code process, &
  • Coaching women to Take Back Control of their drinking, through my Rapid Alcohol Recovery Process.

I coach my clients using a unique blend of Neuro Science, Practical Strategies & Spiritual Practices, and if you would like to know more about how I can help you, contact me HERE

Sonia x

Alcohol is not the problem…..this is

Alcohol is not the problem…..this is

Do you feel out of control around alcohol?

Trapped in your daily drinking cycle?

Making decisions each morning, that today will be different, only to find yourself hiding the empty bottle (again) at the end of the night?

What is going on?  What is wrong with you?  Why are you so weak in your LIFE, and why is alcohol so strong?……

I know exactly what is going through your head daily, as you struggle to understand you, alcohol, and your despair at not being able to regain control of your drinking.

I lived like that for 28 years, and it was hard, exhausting, and I felt a total failure, I couldn’t change my drinking, I couldn’t stick with any plan….I lost.  Alcohol won. Every day (or almost every day).

And then alcohol didn’t win….I did…

So, what changed? 

Well alcohol didn’t change. 

Alcohol couldn’t change. 

Alcohol couldn’t win. Alcohol couldn’t lose. 

Alcohol didn’t give a damn about me or whether I drank it or not….so….that left me who changed.

And here’s how I changed

I stopped focusing on alcohol. I finally gave up looking over and over again, trying to find different answers, using the same old information, which had never worked, and I started focusing on the thoughts and feelings that I had before I drank…..why they were there, how they were created, what they actually meant, and I found all the answers fall into place, one after another, naturally, easily, like a jigsaw puzzle of a picture I had never seen before, and my drinking changed……

Here’s what I learnt to be true for me, and true for all my clients too.

Your drinking trap has nothing to do with alcohol, it is the BELIEFS you hold around what alcohol delivers to you (in intention), and the LIMITING BELIEFS of how hard change will be, how you will ‘cope’, relax, BE without alcohol – which is the daftest, because changing your drinking doesn’t have to be a ‘never again’ solution…..

So, what are LIMITING BELIEFS in the context of alcohol?

Limiting Beliefs around alcohol are the deeply ingrained, perceptions and attitudes that you hold about alcohol and its role in your life.

It is your alcohol Beliefs that decide your drinking habits, not alcohol. 

It is your alcohol Limiting Beliefs that create the fears about how hard changing your drinking will be, not alcohol.

You cannot see any Limiting Belief, but you can always feel it. 

When you think about stopping drinking, or even changing the way you drink, you bump up against the Belief, and you feel anxious, deprived, fearful and the more you try to fight yourself (not alcohol), to not drink, the greater the fear, anxiety becomes, until you give in and drink…..

This is the cause of your drinking trap, your alcohol Beliefs.

And when you accept that truth, you start to gently focus on shifting the belief, instead of wasting your time, energy and headspace focusing on alcohol.

The wonderful news is, it is easy to change any Belief, once you are aware of it….and to remind you, it shows up in the way you feel, the anxiety, sense of deprivation, loss you feel when you contemplate changing your drinking….it then morphs into the battle in your own mind that is the tug of war between, “Don’t drink”, vs, “It will be different this time”.

It is the Limiting Belief that craves comfort, for you it might be alcohol, for another it might be food, shopping, gambling.

It is the Limiting Belief you try to find willpower to fight, not alcohol.

Once you start to your journey of true understanding of your problem drinking, which is NOT alcohol, and release the Limiting Beliefs you hold around alcohol, you release stress, anxiety, confusion and a path appears in front of you.

You can easily regain control of your drinking, you can easily find peace of mind, happiness, and freedom, and all you need is a clear process and strategies, backed up with compassionate and empowering support.

And remember, the process should not focus on limiting, avoiding alcohol, and must focus on releasing the truth of your drinking problem….your alcohol Limiting Beliefs.

I have a unique process to changing problem drinking, which works on the absolute knowledge and experience that alcohol is what you ‘do’ that has hurt your life, but not what needs to be changed.  

I have supported 1000’s of clients find their peace and freedom around their drinking, allowing them to become Simply Social Drinkers.

Is it your time to walk a new path, with a new perspective and empowering new way of changing your drinking for LIFE?

Here’s just one Client’s Testimonial

“For over 10 years I’ve struggled and tried various recovery methods including 3 stays in rehab. I’ve finally got the effortless freedom from alcohol that Sonia promises in just 6 weeks. I can’t remember feeling this happy. I’m me. Thank you Sonia … I’m truly grateful”. Ms GK

This could by you, starting from your very first session….are you committed and ready?

Then let’s talk, contact me HERE

Emotional Vulnerability: Your Pathway to Healing and Growth

Emotional Vulnerability: Your Pathway to Healing and Growth

I used to think being Emotionally Vulnerable, left me open to attack, to ridicule, to feeling less than I already did. I hid my thoughts and feelings, even from myself, and I paid a high price in my emotional health, my happiness, my relationships, my LIFE.

Now I know how important it is to be Emotionally Vulnerable, and I here I share with you, what I have learnt on my own journey, as well as the journey’s of LIFE Recovery Coaching clients, the profound significance of embracing emotional vulnerability as a pathway to healing, fostering deeper connections with others and, most importantly, with yourself.

Gift yourself 5 minutes to read in this peace, let my words settle and lean into the insights and truth.

In a world that emphasizes strength and resilience, the true power of emotional vulnerability sometimes gets overlooked.

However, this beautiful act of authenticity holds the key to genuine healing and profound personal growth.

The Power of Emotional Vulnerability: Embrace Your Authentic Self

Emotional vulnerability is not a sign of weakness; it is an expression of authenticity.

By allowing yourself to share your innermost thoughts, feelings, and fears, you embark on a transformative path of healing.

Embracing your vulnerabilities means embracing your true self, and this truth is a gift you can offer yourself and the world.

Authentic Emotional Healing: Unburden Your Soul

Through emotional vulnerability, you create a sacred space for authentic emotional healing. By facing your suppressed emotions and past traumas, you unburden your soul and release the weight that has held you back.

This liberating journey empowers you to break free from old patterns and embrace a life of purpose and joy.

Deepening Connections with Others: Forge Bonds of Trust

When you bravely share your vulnerabilities with trusted individuals, you forge bonds of trust and understanding.

As you open your heart, you invite others to do the same, fostering profound connections. Vulnerability becomes the bridge that leads us to truly know and be known, enriching your relationships beyond measure.

Connecting with Ourselves: Embrace Your Wholeness

At the core of emotional vulnerability lies your relationship with yourself.

By accepting your vulnerabilities, you embrace your humanity and connect with your inner self.

Self-compassion replaces self-judgment, and you learn to love every facet of your being.

In this embrace, you find the strength to heal and grow.

Navigating Growth and Resilience: Transform into Your True Self

Embracing emotional vulnerability challenges you to step outside of your comfort zone and confront your fears.

This transformative process ignites resilience and fosters personal growth.

As we transform into your true self, you become the author of your LIFE’s stories, weaving a tapestry of authenticity and strength.

Conclusion: Embrace the Heart-Centered Journey

Emotional vulnerability is a journey that calls for authenticity, compassion, and wholeheartedness.

As you embark on this heart-centered path, you uncover the profound healing power within yourself.

So my strongest advice to you is, celebrate your vulnerabilities and embrace your true self,  because it is in those moments that you connect with the very essence of your being.

As you honour your vulnerabilities, you create a life filled with authenticity, love, and resilience.

Let your heart lead the way, and you will fall in love with the beautiful soul you truly are, that emerges from within.

If you would like tips and advice to support you on your HEALING journey, taking you back to your de-fault settings of Happiness, Peace and JOY,  then I invite you to join my private community The Happiness Code …you deserve more, I will show you how to find it….💕

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