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CHOICE is a FEELING…….

CHOICE is a FEELING…….

How are you feeling today? And yesterday, and for the past few weeks or months?

Are you feeling at Peace within yourself?

Happy and Relaxed about the Choices you easily make in LIFE?

Safe in Trusting yourself to stick with the choices you know will make your LIFE better?

Or, do you feel a quiet desperation building inside of you that knows you must make changes to your LIFE.

  • Maybe you want to change the way you Drink, or Eat, or Spend….
  • Maybe you want better Relationships, a Healthier Lifestyle, to earn more Money
  • Or maybe you are sick of with feeling Stressed, Anxious or Overwhelmed.

Whatever your struggle is, you want to make changes and you want to make changes NOW, and often you know what to do, that you just need to make better Choices, but for some inexplicable reason you can’t.

Your rational mind tells you that you cannot carry on like this.

You wake in the night tangled in the stress and anxiety of your thinking about how to change.

 You make decisions in the early hours of the morning that today will be different.

  • Today you will not drown yourself in Food or Alcohol
  • Today you will stand up for yourself and say “No”
  • Today you will be better, take some time for you, delegate / ask for help, and that

TODAY is the day everything changes…..you have made your new, empowering, Choices and you are going to stick with them, ….except you don’t…..your day wears on, your ability to choose wanes and you go back to the same old, same old…….and so your cycle of exhaustion and despair goes on unbroken……

What on Earth is going on?  Or rather, your usual thought is, “What on Earth is wrong with me?”

Here’s the TRUTH about CHOICE…..powerful new CHOICES are not just decisions you make in your thoughts, in fact thoughts, (your rational mind), don’t allow you to change, unless they are aligned with the FEELING (the Belief) that you do have a CHOICE…..

 Let me explain….when I changed my drinking, seemingly miraculously after 28 years of painful struggle, and without any stress or struggle, I changed it through my CHOICE….a choice I had never felt I had before, and so a choice I was not able to make, or stick with before.

Of course I had known, intellectually what my drinking was doing to myself and my son.

I felt and saw the results of my drinking every day.

I used to go back to bed crying after he left for school, frightened that I wouldn’t be alive when he came back home, and certain that he had left in the morning with me a shell of the mother he deserved, anxious, stressed, impatient with my darling child, my gift from God, who I loved more than life itself.

And I didn’t’ feel I could change.

I didn’t feel I had it in me.  Why?

 

Because I had (innocently) bought hook, line and sinker into the powerful social conditioning (Beliefs) around alcohol that changing my drinking wasn’t possible.

 

That I would struggle for life, that it would always be an uphill battle, and in those unseen, unknown but deeply felt Beliefs, I had (again, innocently) abdicated all my choices and responsibilities to my own negative, limiting Beliefs……

 

Now, 7 years happy, peaceful in myself years later, through my own experience, my learning’s and my clients easy successes, I believe that to be true of everyone that struggles to change their drinking, the way they eat, spend…..all of which come under the change paralysing umbrella term of ‘addiction’.

So, how do you know you hold those Beliefs?

That’s easy.

Beliefs show up as FEELINGS, and when you go into conflict between what you rationally know to be true, your THOUGHTS,  and your Beliefs, your FEELINGS (anxious, fearful, deprived of not doing something), you are bumping up against the super power of YOU, your Unconscious Mind, which controls 98% of your behaviors (I kid you not).

And that is where your inner struggle truly lies.

 

Not with the ‘doing’, not with the behaviors of your Drinking/Eating, not speaking up, not having the Love, Health, Relationships or Money that you know you deserve, but with conflict between what you THINK to be true and what you FEEL is true…..do you recognise that?

 

I hope so, because that inner conflict is the point at which it is game over for you, and your cycles of the way you eat, drink, shop, the relationships you have, the money you can earn, the (lack) of lifestyle you currently have, the pain you live in continue, because you BELIEVE, (feel), you cannot change, that you cannot be different, that change will be hard and all the rest of the feelings you have when you want to make a CHOICE to act/live differently.

But when you THINK you have CHOICE and it is aligned with FEELING (Believing) you have CHOICE, then its game over again….and this time your battle is won!

You act differently easily, because there is no fear, no anxiety, no sense of deprivation.  Instead, your worldview opens up, there is curiosity, awareness, excitement and with each new step, taken from each new CHOICE, your LIFE changes.

  • YOU grow in confidence and strength
  • Your LIFE grows, it flourishes
  • You CAN have the Freedom you deserve, you can have the LOVE you deserve
  • You can have the MONEY you dream of
  • You can have everything you want, when you THINK and FEEL you have CHOICE.

It is that simple.  I promise you.

If you are ready to make the most exciting and profound changes to your LIFE, contact me (HERE), TODAY.

And always and forever, be kind and gentle with yourself

Sonia xx

A Simple, Spiritual Practice to take you from Pain to Peace Today

A Simple, Spiritual Practice to take you from Pain to Peace Today

Your LIFE and how you cope with it, can leave you feeling out of control, overwhelmed, stressed and filled with anxiety for today, tomorrow and your future.

And you are doing your best, every day, but LIFE isn’t getting easier, you are not finding peace and even worse, you feel isolated in how you ‘cope’;

Maybe you Drink too much, Eat too much, Spend too much as you look for comfort and relief from the thoughts that whirl around in your head, looking for answers in your problems that just aren’t there…..

And the more you search in your stress, overwhelm and fear, the less answers you find, and the more isolated you feel.

But the gentle loving Truth is, that you are never alone, and you can let go of your struggles easily, because you always have on your side the gentle loving super strong, always and forever wanting and knowing what the best for you is, presence of someone who loves you more than life itself,

YOU 🧡

YOU are the only person who can offer the depth of true comfort your heart is searching for.

YOU are the key to your peace and freedom.

I know this to be completely true because I have felt lonely all my life.

With friends and family who love me, I have felt isolated and alone, in a cold hard LIFE that wore me down.

Overwhelmed, struggling and living in profound sadness, because of who I felt I was, and my painful drinking, ashamed of my behaviour, sometimes of the stupid things I had said, and always by my failure to change my drinking, to become the mother my son deserved, and the woman I was born to be.

And that is now my past.

Now I am free and at peace in my one short, beyond precious LIFE, and I wants the same for you…and from the bottom of my heart I do…

So I am sharing here, just one of the simple LIFE Recovery Coaching spiritual practices I use, and get my client to use daily, on good days as well as sadder, because it always resets their world and mine, and it never fails ….🧡

Please lovely, take just  5 minutes to sit quietly

Wrap your arms around yourself, tight

Rub your arms, your back, wherever you can reach, rhythmically, let your body rock into the movement, and with the tenderness you give to your loves, and rarely, if ever to yourself and lean into the feeling of being held, of strength of LOVE that will flow through you, from you and back into comforting your hurt heart, your wounded soul.

Breathe deeply and say, in your head or out loud, with kindness,

I love you darling, I love you, I LOVE YOU 🧡

I know how hard you try 🧡

I know how well you mean 🧡

I know you’re a silly thing sometimes and I still, and always and forever will, love you 🧡

I forgive you 🧡

I feel complete compassion for how hard you try 🧡

I hear you 🧡

I see you 🧡

I LOVE you 🧡

Give yourself one last squeeze of SELF-LOVE, and go about your day.

When you do this every day. When you acknowledge the wonder of you (and you ARE wondrous), you will start to heal, you will accept who you are, you will be your strength, your stay, and EVERY aspect of LIFE will be softer, gentler, less frightening, and more manageable. I PROMISE you.

Be kind and gentle with yourself today and everyday.

Sonia xx

PS. If you are not living your best LIFE, if you know in your soul that you want and deserve more, but don’t know where to start, or what to do, please contact me.

Changing my drinking changed my LIFE, but it was only the start of a journey that has gifted me real LOVE, healthy Relationships, helped me set Boundaries that helped me grow into a woman I am so proud to say I love, and allowed me to create a way of LIVING, that I didn’t dream was possible.

All this is on offer to you too, and as your LIFE Recovery Coach, I know the shortest, easiest route x

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