How long have you felt heartbroken about your drinking?
How many weeks, months or years have you spent trying to control your thoughts, feelings and cravings for your pick-you-up the knocks-you-down?
How hard has it become to pretend you feel happy and relaxed when you don’t?
Or in pretending you are at peace and present for your family, when really are watching the clock tick too slowly toward’s Wine O’Clock, that blessed time of the day when you can finally relax and have your first glass of wine, after giving up on the daily battle you have in the run up to that first glass of wine?
And finally, how long have you been trying to convince yourself that your drinking isn’t a problem, doesn’t concern you, doesn’t take joy from your life, when you know deep inside it does and yet the thought of change frightens you?
The whole sad alcohol ‘problem’ is an exhausting mess and the methods you read and hear about, that make perfect sense, just don’t work for you, and you have no idea why.
But it doesn’t have to be this way, you can change your drinking, easily and you don’t have to stop completely because ‘never again’ is not your only option………..
Just to control your drinking would be enough, wouldn’t it? To have the freedom to chose when/how you drink and you just don’t know how to achieve it.
Most of the amazing women I talk to want the ‘freedom to control their drinking’, a strangely conflicting statement which I always gently challenge, because control isn’t freedom………
Of course to find yourself finally in control of your drinking is a fantastic step forward, when you have previously felt so out of control, but the truth is, control is the equivalent of an electronic leg tag.
You have made a huge effort and you have obeyed your self-imposed rules, and learnt to live, on the whole and in comfort, within the boundaries and strategies of avoidance around alcohol you have created for yourself.
And when the going is good, you are rocking your control.
You see, hear and feel all the benefits of being in control. You feel proud, happy and a winner, and because of these wonderful feelings, every aspect of your life improves – your home life is more peaceful, life is more joyful, life is gooooood!
However, relying on ‘Control, like Willpower, is simply a way of keeping you ‘locked in’ on your promises, and like the electronic tagging device, there is always the added weight and the unnatural flashing light of it in your awareness, both of which take energy.
And here’s an absolute truth, on days when you are thinking/ feeling good about yourself and the way you view the world, you believe that your control/willpower is working.
However on those wonderful days, because of the way you are thinking and feeling, you don’t want a drink and its easy to say ‘No’.
Then on days where you feel lower in energy – maybe over tired, hungry, alone, unappreciated, unheard, unloved, in need of comfort and support, you waver, you believe your ‘control/willpower weakens and you drink.
And you know the rest. You feel a failure (again) and you are marched back into your alcohol prison and drinking cycle, all control seemingly abandoned, until you try again, and harder, placing yourself in tighter restrictions, which takes even more energy to stay in control.
You only need control/willpower to stop yourself doing something you really want to do, and you drink in a way you don’t like to make yourself ‘feel better’. So, on tougher, lower days, you find yourself needing to control your method of ‘feeling better’ – that’s where the sense of deprivation, loss, sadness comes in.
You are not designed to live in pain and unhappiness, or to deny yourself comfort and support, you have just forgotten how to deliver the ‘feeling better’ you are looking for, and so you turn to alcohol.
Freedom is completely different, it is limitless, it is living without the fear of relapse, it is peace and grace, and it is a very, very different in energy from Control.
Again, you drink to make yourself feel better. But Control isn’t long lasting ‘feeling better’. Control is a superficial sticking plaster – it isn’t the inside out ‘feeling better’ you need, FREEDOM is.
The freedom I am talking about, is the freedom from your ‘Alcohol is the SOLUTION’ belief. Control leaves that belief safely in place, ready and waiting to comfort you when you are most in need, the very time when you most need control.
Freedom is being connected with yourself, in awareness of your needs and lovingly delivering them.
Freedom is trust in you. Control is lack of trust, hoping to learn to trust in you.
Freedom takes no energy, instead it gifts you more.
Control takes energy, and when you need it most, it control drains you most.
Do you recognise my writing?
Can you see and feel that Freedom from your drinking is where you want to be?
- The freedom to choose if and when you drink?
- The freedom of no longer being afraid of ‘failure’, the freedom to live the life of peace and grace you deserve?
If you are ready for that freedom, I know the easiest, most empowering, joyful way, and that is through the Rapid Alcohol Recovery Method. My unique 6 week coaching process is a powerful process of new awareness’s around your alcohol struggle, that allows you to release the the emotional cravings that overwhelm you, that you drink to ‘comfort’. It is the only process that recognizes the clear structure you go through every time you pick up the first glass after a day spent on control, and reverses that structure so that alcohol doesn’t even enter your thinking.
Developed to explain and recreate easy change to painful drinking, it is based on my own journey of 28 years of alcohol struggle and stress, and it is the exact process that took me back to ME, the me who never ‘needs’ to drink or eat myself silly to feel better. The incredible women who commit to this easy journey enjoy a level of success unheard of in traditional quit drinking therapies, and it is the journey to freedom on offer to you, no Control or Willpower required.
If you are ready to change your drinking, to forget about control and find your freedom, I am here.
Reaching out is the ONLY hard part of change, and it shows that you are already brave.
Don’t waste another day, week, month or year struggling with alcohol the way you have been for the last day’s, weeks, months and years. If you want to change your drinking, and you are ready to invest in you, the change starts TODAY, by clicking HERE to contact me.
Be kind and gentle with yourself
PS, I love to share my clients joy at their freedom, so here’s a recent Testimonial
“My life has changed completely. I feel rested and at peace even on the busiest of days. I have created 15 minute slots in my day for me and this one small change, as well as my 5 minute morning routine has bought me back into balance. All those years I thought I was struggling with alcohol when I was really struggling with the lack of me. Thanks darling Sonia, your vision is so different from any other approach and it just works”
There will never be a time that is more right for change than today. You already live in fear, why not make the choice now to live in freedom? Here’s the Rapid Alcohol Recovery Method link again in case you missed it earlier
If you would like to understand more about my journey from 28 years of alcoholism, to peaceful freedom, take a look at my internationally acclaimed book,This Isn’t Me (click on the link HERE).I wrote it for my son, as an apology for his younger years, and as an attempt to explain the un-explainable.