Changing my drinking changed my LIFE, and that one sudden, seemingly miraculous, when I believed all hope was lost, profound, change has been the greatest source of true soul happiness, to both myself and my son.
But the truth is, changing my drinking was just the start of a journey that has transformed my LIFE.
It was the starting point of a magical path of self-discovery that finally took me It was the starting point of a magical path of self-discovery that finally took me out of the Pains of Fear, Stress, Exhaustion, and into the Peace that ONLY comes from being back at Home.
The only Home I had ever needed, the Home I had spent my life grieving over the loss of, without even knowing it, the Home that is ME.
This is the Home that is my heart centre, my centre of Connection, Peace, Balance and LOVE.
The Home where Acceptance, Forgiveness, Compassion and LOVE flourish unendingly, the place where I rest in Peace in this LIFE, regardless of the situations or circumstances such as loss, unkindness, personal injustice, the normal stuff we all go, though, comes my way.
I have found a new way of living, that is as old as time, that I didn’t even know it existed, yet is the truth of LIFE, and that was that I now recognize, and embrace, what I have learnt to call the ‘Gifts of Grace’.
To me, Grace is the ability to move through LIFE ‘smoothly’, in Flow.
Grace is having the quiet inner strength, the resilience to deal with LIFE without ‘toughness’, with no need to raise my voice, or to try to force anyone of any situation to fit into my world view.
Grace is honouring myself for who I am, and giving myself permission to forgive my mistakes and move on in LOVE and PEACE.
Grace offers Relief and Comfort and allows me to act with loving Self-Care.
And Grace has many elements to it. It is as multi-faceted gift as a beautiful diamond, and each element shines brightly on your soul, exactly when you need it most, offering support and Peace.
The Gifts of Grace that have changed my LIFE are of Acceptance, Forgiveness, Compassion and Love, first and foremost for myself, which naturally spills out into every area of my LIFE, and are showered on everyone who is precious to me.
These are the Gifts of Grace (among many others), through which I now see the world.
These are the Gifts of Grace that are my LIFE filters, and my decision makers.
These are the Gifts of Grace that I cherish, and that cherish me, and these have allowed me to make true Peace with my past and feel excitement for a future I cannot know.
I think the greatest Gifts of these Graces, is that they have allowed me to Let Go of all the things I had innocently learnt to believe about myself that hurt me, and held me back from making better choices, that stopped me finding the LOVE I deserve, from expressing my creativity, from living and breathing in my own, perfect for me, shape, and from living my one far too short, (no matter how many years I have), LIFE in the JOY that is my birth right.
I believe it is the same for you too.
You may not drink the way I did (I bloody hope you don’t, no-one should live the way I did, in pain every day, feeling lesser on every level), but the other pains I see clients struggling with, the Stress, Overwhelm, Anxiety and Fears all rob them of their Peace and Joy of LIFE, and they all come from the same place, the lack of connection with their Home space. It is the same for you too.
Living disconnected from who you truly are, the wonderous, miracle of you, is the greatest pain in LIFE.
To be lost and searching for something, anything, to make you feel better, often in the world of ‘stuff’, material stuff, clothes, cars, holidays, the big house, the big job, the success you think will make you ‘feel better’, can never create the Peace and Happiness you crave, because it isn’t found there.
And of course, the world of ‘stuff’ is wonderful. At times in my LIFE, I have been both financially desperate and privileged.
And of course being privileged brings a level of ease and comfort that I would be stupid to deny isn’t completely wonderful, but without the connection of myself I now have, it never, ever gave me what the Peace and Joy I treasure.
Stuff alone cannot bring JOY, maybe you know that in your own LIFE. Maybe you have a level of ease and comfort that others can only dream of, and still you feel empty.
That’s because Stuff does not, cannot, in any way truly compensate for the void within, the aching sense of something missing, that cannot be filled or dislodged, by any external experiences or factors, not even truly loving, supportive relationships, or the love of our children (external loves).
And on some level, you know that, because if ‘external love’ could change the way you felt and acted, my God it would.
The truth is, without the LOVE of you that comes only from YOU, without the Acceptance, Forgiveness and Compassion that comes from knowing you, supporting you and cherishing you, by YOU, you will often be bought to your emotional knees when LIFE hits you harder.
- Instead of making the BEST choices for YOU, you will often make poorer, sadder choices
- Instead of having HEALTHY, Loving Relationships, you will often accept behaviours that hurt you
- Instead of using your natural talents, listening to your SOUL and trusting the messages your INTUITION sends you, you will often not have the career, the health, the relationships of your dreams
- Instead of having healthy BOUNDARIES, that you express with confidence and ease, you will often try to do more than you can cope with
- Instead of living in your perfect-for-YOU emotional size and shape, you will often try to be different to who you truly are, to struggle to breathe and live in someone else’s shape, which can never fit you.
And you will always and forever feel the loss of your greatness, your wonder and the Joy and Peace of living the LIFE that you deserve.
Being back in your Home space is ALL that you need to change your LIFE.
Safe in that space of LOVE, everything is easier, everything flows naturally, you are no longer dashed against the cold, hard, unforgiving rocks of the Beliefs you hold about you and what you deserve, that hold you back, that hurt your heart, when you try to have more in LIFE.
Instead, from that place of LOVE, those Beliefs soften, they move, they dissolve, allowing you to take another step towards the LIFE you dream of and deserve.
This is my truth. It is your truth too.
Read this again if you have to. Let my words land and settle, they can only land in a good place. They can only bring your comfort and support.
If you are struggling with any area of LIFE, with what you Drink, Eat, Shop, or with Relationships, Health, Career of Money worried that keep you away at night, I can help you, you just need to reach out HERE.
And please, please remember, no matter where you are in Pain now, or how long you have felt trapped, freedom and Peace is within you all the time.
Your LIFE and the way you live it may well feel very complicated, but you are not complicated in design, and what works in one area of LIFE works in every area, you are simply not used to thinking that way, but it is the truth.
Finally, always, and forever, be kind and gentle with YOU.
PS. If you would like to know more more about my journey from 28 years of alcoholism, to peaceful freedom, take a look at my internationally acclaimed book, This Isn’t Me (click on the link HERE), reviewed by Ranvir Singh of Good Morning Britain as “Beautiful & devastating”, wrote it for my son, as an apology for his younger years, and as an attempt to explain the un-explainable.
How often to you take daily time out just for you?
Not a break in your day to put the washing on, clear the kitchen and all the other LIFE stuff that has to be done, time out for YOU.
Daily time for YOU, to sit, breathe, let your mind wander away from the Pain and tangle of your To Do lists, the worry over rising costs, your relationship concerns, the way you Drink / Eat / Shop, your Fears for your future, your sadness and regrets over your past, and back into Peace?
Do you even know how to switch off, to create a PAUSE, to still your mind, to calm your heart, to comfort YOU?
I am going to tell you something now about what I do daily, that I would have laughed at in my drinking years, in my struggle, my anxiety, my fears and shame, and yet it is one of the simplest spiritual practices that has had the most profound affect on my LIFE, on the Peace of my LIFE, on the CHOICES that I make, on the way I think and feel about every area of my LIFE, and that is that I MEDITATE.
I used to view Meditation as whoo whoo stuff, that I didn’t have time for. I had huge resistance to anything ‘spiritual’…..It didn’t make any sense to me.
I wanted to change my LIFE, to stop ‘doing’ the things that hurt me, that hurt my son, I wanted to change what I was ‘doing’, so focused more on trying to stop my ‘doing’, my areas of Pain, oblivious to the simple fact that I was looking in the wrong direction for Peace, that I needed to focus gently on how I was ‘Being’ and to change that….
I didn’t understand why anyone would Meditate, and I thought those that did, were already in a space of calm and Peace, that I could never step into.
When the truth is, Mediation creates that calm and Peace.
A calm and Peace that even on the most stressful of days, offers true comfort and support as well as the clarity to make better choices you simply cannot see in the darkness of your Pain.
I can’t tell you when I started to Meditate, or when it became part of my daily Morning Routine, it seems like it has been forever, but I can tell you why it works, and the reason even the simplest of Meditations can enable profound change, easily.
Taking the time so PAUSE, and to take the conscious decision to slow your breathing down, to take deep, long, slow breathes, instantly takes you out of stress, and into calm….if you don’t believe me, just try it right now. And before you think, “I don’t have time”, remember, you are going to breathe anyway, so consciously CHOOSE how you breathe.
Now in that state of calm, focus on a single thought that serves you, that makes you happy, that fills you with joy, if joy is what you want to feel, or peace, or relaxation, and notice how your whole being shifts out of the thoughts that haunt you in your struggle, and the feelings those thoughts create, this is called the Meditative State. This is the state of true relaxation and calm.
So, Meditation calms your mind, it quietens your critical voice, it loosens the knots of your thinking….it allows you to expand out of your contracted thoughts and feelings, the ones that cause you distress, and in the expansion, allows you to see and feel other possibilities, opportunities which do serve you better, in every area of your LIFE.
I now use guided Meditations, that I create myself, for when I am stuck in any area of LIFE.
I write a loving script, record it on my phone, and play it whilst I meditate.
I take myself into the space of calm, and ask a question about what do do next, and let the answer come to me.
It always does, sometimes a one word answer, sometimes, if its to do with my LIFE Recovery Coaching practice, I get an intuitive download. One thing is certain, when I ask anything in my meditation, I always get the answer that serves me best (often one I don’t ‘see’ outside of my Mediation), because I have quietened my critical mind chatter……it will be the same for you too.
If you took 5 minutes to meditate before you picked up your glass of wine in the evening, you will end your conflicting inner voices, and your feelings of cravings/need a drink will disappear.
It is exactly the same with food, with stress, with struggle, with overwhelm, with anxiety, with any worry you have that you are fighting with.
Because you act on how you feel in the moment, not in how you want to feel the next day…..please read that again and let it settle.
So, when you take the time to make yourself truly feel better in the moment, by simple Meditation, you act differently, effortlessly.
And of course Mediation cannot change the situation / circumstance, but it can and will change your thinking perspective of your distress, which changes the way you feel, which again, allows you to act differently. LIFE can actually be very simple.
Just 10 minutes at a time of day that works best for you (I prefer the morning as it resets me for my day, you may be different), of Meditation, will bring you Peace, it will release Stress, Anxiety and Overwhelm, it will change the way you Drink / Eat / Shop. and it will bring Clarity to whatever your struggle is, as well as different opportunities/possibilities as to the next best step for YOU.
You can’t get Meditation ‘wrong’. You don’t need a Yoga mat, a pose, any special clothing or candles, you simply need to be in a quiet space where you can sit, or lie, comfortably. I often now meditate as I walk, keeping my eyes open, I let my mind drift away.
And in the early days, thoughts may well pop into your mind, and all you have to do is view them as clouds that drift on by. That’s all your thoughts are anyway until you ‘buy’ in to them.
Don’t overthink your Mediation (not even the timing, simply set an alarm for up to 10 minutes on your phone), and enjoy the time and space you gift yourself, as well as the sense of Peace, expansion and relaxation that will flow over you, and then go about your day, safe in your knowledge that you can, at any time, take yourself out of whatever is causing you Pain, and go back into Peace
Be kind and gentle with yourself
PS. I have created a beautiful FREE guided ANXIETY MEDIATION to support you in finding freedom from your Pain, and to take you back into Peace, if you would like a copy, contact me (HERE) and put YES in the Subject line x
How is LIFE for you right now? And yesterday, and last week, last month?
And how do you see your LIFE going forward to tomorrow, next week, next month?
- Do you feel at Peace with who you are and the Choices that you make?
- Do you even know what the next best step is for YOU, and have the confidence to take it?
- Or do you have no idea what to do, or where to start to take you to living your BEST LIFE?
The bottom line is, do you feel Stressed, Overwhelmed, Anxious and out of control of the situations LIFE throws at you?
And what do you DO to help yourself, to make yourself feel better able to cope?
Are you one of the good, kind, loving people who are finding yourself increasingly drawn to the non-comforts of Drinking too much, Eating too much, Spending too much, to give you some temporary relief, to give you some calm, some relaxation, some happiness?
Except the result is you feel LESS calm, less relaxed and more unhappy….sadly, as you know, what you do makes you feel worse, not better.
What you DO, makes you feel LESS of who you really are, and more of who you have started to fear/believe you always will be…
- The you who will always struggle daily to ‘deny’ yourself the evening wine you love to hate.
- The food you love in the moment and the weight gain you hate.
- The new clothes/shoes you have to have in the moment, and then never wear.
- The YOU who snaps, is irritable, exhausted, when you want to be loving, present and calm
I have said this many times, and I will repeat it forever, because it is the TRUTH for anyone who struggles to change what they DO that then causes immense Pain.
You ONLY Drink / Eat / Spend in a way that makes you so unhappy to make yourself feel better, (whatever ‘better’ is in the moment, even just to shut down your damn ‘I will/I won’t’ mind battle up!), and then you don’t feel better, you feel worse, sadder, weaker, a failure, and you have learnt to accept that version of you, as you.
But it is NOT YOU, and it never will be.
The you who never craves a Drink, who doesn’t over Eat rubbish, who never Spends (wastes) your much needed money, is within you all the time, she cannot leave you, she loves you too much and SHE is your truest YOU.
It is living in the Pain of NOT being your TRUE SELF that is your greatest pain in LIFE, and alcohol / food / spending….your know your ‘poison’, have become the sticking plaster that can never stick, that you have learnt to use, in your attempts to find Peace and Freedom from that PAIN.
You can never get enough of what you do not need.
You can never Drink / Eat / Buy anything that will take away your pain, stress, exhaustion, or that will comfort your lack of communication, comfort or LOVE, and on some levels you do know that…..otherwise you wouldn’t be fighting so hard and for so long……
And yet in your innocent lack of awareness of the true nature of your ‘problems’ with alcohol / food etc, in your lack of understanding your true cravings (never an external substance, always an inner lack), you focus on the fix that doesn’t fix and continue to Drink/ Eat / Spend in your state of loss.
There are literally NO mysteries around why you DO what you do, and NO mysteries as to how to change it, effortlessly, and it never starts with looking at what you DO (Drink/Eat/Shop/People Please, Take on too much, etc), but instead, who you are BEING to YOU.
To finally find peace and freedom from the LIFE you despair of, you must give up on the old tried and ‘failed’ methods of change that have failed you so far, and embrace an empowering new perspective and simple strategies that gift you back YOU, the essence of YOU that is your greatest ally, who knows instinctively how to care for you, because believe me when you are back in that safe, loving space, the way you Drink / Food / Treat yourself changes naturally, and that is why change this way is effortless.
So, the quickest and easiest way to regain your Peace and Freedom and to BE YOU, is through daily acts of Self-Care…to get you started, here’s my Top Tip for Self-Care.
Its very simple tip, and can be applied to every area of your LIFE where you are in Pain, in Struggle, Overwhelm, Anxiety or Stress
“When Life Speeds Up, You SLOW Down!”
And let me be clear here, slowing down doesn’t mean not getting things done.
Slowing Down means taking a PAUSE, even for just a few minutes, to breathe deeply, calibrate what is going on both in your inner and outer world (situations), and only then ‘doing’.
Your cravings for anything come from the disquiet within you, the nagging anxieties of being uncomfortable and unsure, both within and without, and just that simple PAUSE, gifts you the space to adjust, to see from LIFE from a different perspective, to allow opportunities and possibilities to show themselves which are ALWAYS hidden when you are in Pain, and for you to re-settle back into the balance and trust of you that brings real, long lasting Peace.
Keep your life simple, in every way, whenever life speeds up, slow YOU right down, just with a PAUSE and a few deep breathes, and you will notice that your Stress, Anxiety and Overwhelm, as well as your ‘desire’ for Alcohol / Food etc, diminishes as you do so.
Be kind and gentle with yourself.
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How are you feeling about you today? And yesterday, and for the past few weeks or months?
Regardless of the circumstances of your LIFE, are you feeling calm within yourself?
Happy and Relaxed about the Choices you easily make in LIFE?
Safe in trusting yourself to stick with the choices you know will make your LIFE better?
Or, do you feel a quiet desperation building inside of you that knows you must make changes to your LIFE.
- Maybe you want to change the way you Drink, or Eat, or Spend….
- Maybe you want better Relationships, a Healthier Lifestyle, to earn more Money
- Or maybe you are sick of with feeling Stressed, Anxious or Overwhelmed.
Whatever your struggle is, you want to make changes and you want to make changes NOW, and often you know what to do, that you just need to make better Choices, but for some inexplicable reason you can’t.
Your rational mind tells you that you cannot carry on like this.
You wake in the night tangled in the stress and anxiety of your thinking about how to change.
You make decisions in the early hours of the morning that today will be different.
- Today you will not drown yourself in Food or Alcohol
- Today you will stand up for yourself and say “No”
- Today you will be better, take some time for you, delegate / ask for help, and that
TODAY is the day everything changes…..you have made your new, empowering, Choices and you are going to stick with them, ….except you don’t…..your day wears on, your ability to choose wanes and you go back to the same old, same old…….and so your cycle of exhaustion and despair goes on unbroken……
What on Earth is going on? Or rather, your usual thought is, “What on Earth is wrong with me?”
Here’s the TRUTH about CHOICE…..powerful new CHOICES are not just decisions you make in your thoughts, in fact thoughts, (your rational mind), don’t allow you to change, unless they are aligned with the FEELING (the Belief) that you do have a CHOICE…..
Let me explain….when I changed my drinking, seemingly miraculously after 28 years of painful struggle, and without any stress or struggle, I changed it through my CHOICE….a choice I had never felt I had before, and so a choice I was not able to make, or stick with before.
Of course I had known, intellectually what my drinking was doing to myself and my son.
I felt and saw the results of my drinking every day.
I used to go back to bed crying after he left for school, frightened that I wouldn’t be alive when he came back home, and certain that he had left in the morning with me a shell of the mother he deserved, anxious, stressed, impatient with my darling child, my gift from God, who I loved more than life itself.
And I didn’t’ feel I could change.
I didn’t feel I had it in me. Why?
Because I had (innocently) bought hook, line and sinker into the powerful social conditioning (Beliefs) around alcohol that changing my drinking wasn’t possible.
That I would struggle for life, that it would always be an uphill battle, and in those unseen, unknown but deeply felt Beliefs, I had (again, innocently) abdicated all my choices and responsibilities to my own negative, limiting Beliefs……
Now, 7 years happy, peaceful in myself years later, through my own experience, my learning’s and my clients easy successes, I believe that to be true of everyone that struggles to change their drinking, the way they eat, spend…..all of which come under the change paralysing umbrella term of ‘addiction’.
So, how do you know you hold those Beliefs?
Beliefs show up as FEELINGS, and when you go into conflict between what you rationally know to be true, your THOUGHTS, and your Beliefs, your FEELINGS (anxious, fearful, deprived of not doing something), you are bumping up against the super power of YOU, your Unconscious Mind, which controls 98% of your behaviors (I kid you not).
And that is where your inner struggle truly lies.
Not with the ‘doing’, not with the behaviors of your Drinking/Eating, not speaking up, not having the Love, Health, Relationships or Money that you know you deserve, but with conflict between what you THINK to be true and what you FEEL is true…..do you recognise that?
I hope so, because that inner conflict is the point at which it is game over for you, and your cycles of the way you eat, drink, shop, the relationships you have, the money you can earn, the (lack) of lifestyle you currently have, the pain you live in continue, because you BELIEVE, (feel), you cannot change, that you cannot be different, that change will be hard and all the rest of the feelings you have when you want to make a CHOICE to act/live differently.
But when you THINK you have CHOICE and it is aligned with FEELING (Believing) you have CHOICE, then its game over again….and this time your battle is won!
You act differently easily, because there is no fear, no anxiety, no sense of deprivation. Instead, your worldview opens up, there is curiosity, awareness, excitement and with each new step, taken from each new CHOICE, your LIFE changes.
- YOU grow in confidence and strength
- Your LIFE grows, it flourishes
- You CAN have the Freedom you deserve, you can have the LOVE you deserve
- You can have the MONEY you dream of
- You can have everything you want, when you THINK and FEEL you have CHOICE.
It is that simple. I promise you.
If you are ready to make the most exciting and profound changes to your LIFE, contact me (HERE), TODAY.
And always and forever, be kind and gentle with yourself
Your LIFE and how you cope with it, can leave you feeling out of control, overwhelmed, stressed and filled with anxiety for today, tomorrow and your future.
And you are doing your best, every day, but LIFE isn’t getting easier, you are not finding peace and even worse, you feel isolated in how you ‘cope’;
Maybe you Drink too much, Eat too much, Spend too much as you look for comfort and relief from the thoughts that whirl around in your head, looking for answers in your problems that just aren’t there…..
And the more you search in your stress, overwhelm and fear, the less answers you find, and the more isolated you feel.
But the gentle loving Truth is, that you are never alone, and you can let go of your struggles easily, because you always have on your side the gentle loving super strong, always and forever wanting and knowing what the best for you is, presence of someone who loves you more than life itself,
YOU are the only person who can offer the depth of true comfort your heart is searching for.
YOU are the key to your peace and freedom.
I know this to be completely true because I have felt lonely all my life.
With friends and family who love me, I have felt isolated and alone, in a cold hard LIFE that wore me down.
Overwhelmed, struggling and living in profound sadness, because of who I felt I was, and my painful drinking, ashamed of my behaviour, sometimes of the stupid things I had said, and always by my failure to change my drinking, to become the mother my son deserved, and the woman I was born to be.
And that is now my past.
Now I am free and at peace in my one short, beyond precious LIFE, and I wants the same for you…and from the bottom of my heart I do…
So I am sharing here, just one of the simple LIFE Recovery Coaching spiritual practices I use, and get my client to use daily, on good days as well as sadder, because it always resets their world and mine, and it never fails ….🧡
Please lovely, take just 5 minutes to sit quietly
Wrap your arms around yourself, tight
Rub your arms, your back, wherever you can reach, rhythmically, let your body rock into the movement, and with the tenderness you give to your loves, and rarely, if ever to yourself and lean into the feeling of being held, of strength of LOVE that will flow through you, from you and back into comforting your hurt heart, your wounded soul.
Breathe deeply and say, in your head or out loud, with kindness,
I love you darling, I love you, I LOVE YOU 🧡
I know how hard you try 🧡
I know how well you mean 🧡
I know you’re a silly thing sometimes and I still, and always and forever will, love you 🧡
I forgive you 🧡
I feel complete compassion for how hard you try 🧡
I hear you 🧡
I see you 🧡
I LOVE you 🧡
Give yourself one last squeeze of SELF-LOVE, and go about your day.
When you do this every day. When you acknowledge the wonder of you (and you ARE wondrous), you will start to heal, you will accept who you are, you will be your strength, your stay, and EVERY aspect of LIFE will be softer, gentler, less frightening, and more manageable. I PROMISE you.
Be kind and gentle with yourself today and everyday.
PS. If you are not living your best LIFE, if you know in your soul that you want and deserve more, but don’t know where to start, or what to do, please contact me.
Changing my drinking changed my LIFE, but it was only the start of a journey that has gifted me real LOVE, healthy Relationships, helped me set Boundaries that helped me grow into a woman I am so proud to say I love, and allowed me to create a way of LIVING, that I didn’t dream was possible.
All this is on offer to you too, and as your LIFE Recovery Coach, I know the shortest, easiest route x
Isn’t LIFE strange……at the times of the year that are supposed to bring you and your loves together, connected to celebrate the graces of LOVE, PEACE and JOY, far too often find you find yourself connected instead to Stress, Anxiety and Overwhelm…….
And to cope maybe Drinking more than yourself you would….this time you would remember it all….instead of being snappy and irritable and desperate for the circus to end
Or Overeating in a way that leaves you feeling disgusted and ashamed
What actually happens is that you step out of your natural balance and rhythm, try to DO more, often spend more than you can afford, run around like a headless chicken, flapping and squawking to get things done, deciding to do too much, not asking for help, not taking a break, not nourishing yourself (I’m tired even thinking about writing these worlds)…..and in the process, completely neglecting YOU and YOUR needs and the result……
Stress, Anxiety, Overwhelm, too much alcohol, too much food and not enough YOU
So, as you go through your Easter, here are my Top Tips to help you stay IN balance (not control – control takes your energy, and means you are OUT of control), and to stay true to the wonderful human you are, loved and loving, peaceful and JOYFUL 🧡
Top Tips for a Stress Free EASTER
- Make a list of what needs to be done, then ask yourself of each one, “Does the NEED to be done?” Cross off any not ‘needs’. Put the bloody washing away until after Easter….anything unrelated to what needs to be done over the next 3 days….forget it…..do this every day
- DELEGATE….There is usually a job for every age group, every ability. Involve others, ask kindly, accept the results….the only one who knew the ‘perfection’ you were looking for is YOU…..
- Take regular TIMEOUTS – 10 – 15 minute, not negotiables times to stand outside, or in a room alone (sit on the loo if you have too), wrap your arms around yourself in a huge hug, slow your breathing and give thanks for the day, for your breath, for your heartbeat, for YOU
- EAT….regularly and small. Grap fruit, carrots, tomatoes….I often use raw veg and hummous to bridge the gap of meals…..
- Drink water, herbal tea throughout the day……the first sign of hunger is dehydration, so drink your water….keep a small bottle within reach, always.
- Say NO with a smile……when you are asked to do something, PAUSE, BREATHE, run it through your head when your breathing has calmed you, ask yourself, “What’s the next best step for ME?” and only then answer…..
- If you have to spend time with someone who upsets you, prepare yourself in advance. I say to myself, “I don’t understand why he/she is like this, I don’t know whats going on, so I will act and talk with compassion” You WILL respond differently.
- Go to bed when YOU need to….You don’t have to stay up late….You decide what’s best for YOU.
The more you put in place simple Self-Care, the easier your LIFE is….every day.
Anxiety, Stress, Exhaustion, Overwhelm, too much alcohol, too much food, ALL are results of you neglecting you.
Only you can put these in place. YOU are YOUR responsibility….no-one else’s….take that on board with the love and care it is delivered, and then ACT on it.
Your LIFE will get easier, you will end your struggles and you will have a peaceful, loving Easter.
Be kind and gentle with yourself