Nov 5, 2020
Did you drink more during the first Lockdown?
And how did the increase of alcohol serve you, physically, emotionally and financially?
Did the extra wine gift you the peace, security, ultimately the comfort, you were looking for?
Or did your drinking leave you haunted with the added weight of feelings of fear and despair because of your drinking?
And did you adjust your drinking down a couple of glasses, when life started to settle?
Or did it stay at the same level of self-comfort, even after life became more ‘normal’?
And finally, now that you are back in Lockdown again, how will this new phase affect you? Will you drink more wine (again), or less?
As with Lockdown Mark I, the sudden Lockdown Mark II, has allowed feelings of uncertainty to rush back into your life. Once again, you feel, at the very least, fed up of all the upheaval /restrictions, and, at worst anxious and fearful, and without any control.
You are Lockdown weary, we feel depleted and sorrowful.
You have already missed out on so many rites of passage, from births, birthday parties, anniversaries, graduations, weddings and on to funerals – they have all been limited in number, and limited in the joy and support you get from being with all your loves in one place, at one time.
You were ‘getting on with it’. You wear the mask that makes communication difficult, you socially distance, you have learnt how to fist bump in place of the huge, all enveloping, expressing love without words, hugs that allow you to connect, literally beating heart to beating heart, forgoing the kisses you love to shower on the faces of your loves when you unexpectedly meet. You have adjusted, coped and done your best. And yet here you are again.
And whilst Lockdown Mark II is not as restrictive as the first one, with the shorter, colder days, and not really having recovered back to any ‘normal’ you thrive in, this Lockdown has the potential to feel harder.
So, how are you thinking / feeling about this Lockdown, and what are you doing with those feelings, and how will you drink to comfort those feelings?
It’s really important to acknowledge that when fear and uncertainty rise up in life, that you must also raise your boundaries of self-care to protect and sustain you through the tougher, lower, sadder times.
What was enough, in terms of self-care to keep you in balance before, isn’t now, and whatever you do that keeps you in alignment, do more of.
You are the key to your inner peace, happiness and safety, and so you must lovingly accept and own your part in keeping your mood/energy in balance and alignment.
You cannot change any aspect of this situation, however you are the only person who CAN take responsibility for your THINKING around it by gently shifting your thoughts away from the fear and anxiety that takes you towards drinking (your need for comfort), and to re-frame your own thoughts in a direction that delivers you a level of peace and calm, and brings you back into alignment, which takes you away from your ‘need for comfort’ to drink.
You only drink in a way you don’t with the intention of making yourself ‘feel better’ – to find relaxation, quiet, peace, calm, balance etc, when the result is you feel worse.
You never drink to be less of the woman you truly are.
You never pick up your first glass of wine with the intention of becoming unkind, neglectful, disengaged and yet, more often than not, that is the result of your drinking
It is ‘feeling better’ in these anxious times that you need to focus on when you want to change your drinking, not focusing on trying to control/restrict alcohol!
You feel better, you don’t drink. You feel crap, anxious, fearful, uncertain, out of alignment, you do drink. It is that simple.
Below are some simple tips to consider adding to your self-care, and sense of wellbeing, that will help gift you back the feelings of love, joy, peace, calm and feeling of alignment you truly need to release your alcohol ‘craving’.
Tips for FAMILY TIME
- Plan movie nights, uplifting, fun films that you can snuggle up and watch together. Laugh and love together.
- Switch the lights off, make it cinema like, get popcorn, put in grab bowls, drinks with straws, even if it’s the same drinks, jazz the experience up. – it always the things that make the difference, so make them
- Download quizzes – they are available for all ages on the internet, pair up, or simply 1-2-1, again, make the small differences that make the difference, set your phone timer to answer them – set a crazy sound. Switch everything off around you.
- Read to the kids, and if you are too tired, use Audible and all of you listen to a magical book together, turn down the lights and create the sense of a different time, a different place, just for an hour or so.
Tips For YOU
- Use some of the above to create time for YOU.
- Lie in the bath with candles
- Listen to beautiful music on your headphones as you do the housework, let its 4th dimensional qualities flow through you and transport you – I do this even when cleaning the toilet and it works!
- Take yourself, and a cup of tea outside, even in the rain, for 5 minutes and breathe, long, slow, deep breaths that calm your over thinking, over feeling, uncertain, stressed and anxious mind and body.
- If you can, stand on grass and feel the connection to you and Mother Earth, ground yourself.
- Notice the colours and sounds of nature around you, gently focus on them. Notice how the leaves drift down, the rain falls the last migrating birds sing, watch and listen and you will find release and relief from the situations around you as you step back into the present moment
Mindset is key, and it needs to be pared with self-loving, supportive strategies that are in alignment with your desired mindset, so Plan Ahead!
Decide how you want to feel during your days – you never choose stress, anxiety, anger or panic, you want peace, calm, safety, then bring into your awareness the the thoughts that create those feelings.
I find the most powerful way to achieve this is to remember times when I felt my desired feeling, right now I want JOY, and when the desired feelings are strong, only then sit quietly and lovingly schedule your day.
We create from the state of being we are in, so planning your schedule from a state of peace, will reflect that peace, you won’t put in place what doesn’t serve you, or overwhelms you, however if you create your schedule from a place of anxiety, you may try to pack everything in, without thought or care for YOUR needs.
And my Number One, TOP, TOP TIP always is,
“When Life Speeds Up, You SLOW Down” doing this has absolutely has changed my life!
You don’t come to turn in the road you can’t see around, you don’t put your foot on the gas, you ease it off and you navigate slowly and carefully to protect yourself and your passengers.
It’s the same in life. You never know what is around any corner of life’s journey, not even 30 minutes ahead – that’s how quick life can change, so when a bend in the road is in front of you, even at the last moment, take your foot off the pedal, slow right down, PAUSE, take a couple of deep breathes as you look around you to assess the best, easiest, clearest, safest route that protects you and your loves, and when only when you are calm and clear, move forward.
When YOU take responsibility for delivering your simple, basic needs, you will realize that YOU are the comfort you are looking for and that YOU are your most powerful support, and then, your need for alcohol simply does not exist.
Be very kind and gentle with yourself.
Sonia x
I coach clients to effortless freedom from their alcohol pain, by acknowledging that alcohol is not the problem that needs to be focused on when you want to change your drinking, and instead shifting awareness to the true struggle with alcohol, which is your the feeling belief you have that it offers you something, some comfort, which you know on an intellectual level is completely untrue – hence the conflict within you.
My unique 1-2-1 6 week RAPID ALCOHOL RECOVERY METHOD process is a series of simple, awareness expanding mindset shifts, backed by simple strategies, such as the above, that allow you to build trust in YOU around alcohol – alcohol is not the problem that needs to be shifted, and those together gift you the true peace and freedom you deserve from your alcohol stress and pain. Here’s what one of my clients recently had to say,
“My bottle of wine (plus) a night drinking changed from WEEK ONE and I have never looked back! You will never know what a gift your and your process has been in my life and the investment has been the best money I have ever spent for me and my family xx”
PS. If you would like to see more of my clients success stories, check out my TESTIMONIALS page x
Finally, if you would like to understand more about my journey from 28 years of alcoholism, to peaceful freedom, take a look at my internationally acclaimed book, This Isn’t Me (click on the link HERE).I wrote it for my son, as an apology for his younger years, and as an attempt to explain the un-explainable.
Oct 24, 2020
You want to change the way you drink. You have to change you drink. You absolutely MUST change the way you drink, and you have tried, you really have, time and time again, and the change hasn’t ‘stuck’, hasn’t lasted and you have no idea why.
You see, feel and hear the pain your drinking is causing, not just you, but your loves too, and you know, that life can only be better by making this ‘simple’ change, and yet you always seem to ‘fail’. And then you see, feel and hear that failure too!
There are NO mysteries around why you drink, and NO mysteries around how to change your drinking for life! None.
It is simple, you drink to make yourself feel better, always! You never drink in a way you don’t like, that causes you pain, because your are at peace with yourself, rested, nourished, connected health or happy.
You ONLY drink in a way you don’t like because, on a level that you don’t really understand, you feel that a drink will help you relax, bring you calm, peace, time out – feelings that are lacking in the moment. And it is the conflict, the war within you between what you feel alcohol brings you, and what you know the results of your drinking will be, that is the ONLY reason you choose to stay trapped.
Your drinking is simply the action you take in your (failed) attempt to resolve your inner conflict, fueled by your lack of whatever it is you are truly in need of.
Your action is drink, for other’s it might be food, gambling, shopping – any compulsive action you cannot seem to stop doing. Actions you have learnt to believe (to feel), bring you whatever it is that is missing – even if it is just the mind chatter (roar), that exhausts you. Do you recognize that?
If you do, excellent, you have taken the first step to shrinking alcohol down from an all consuming mind monster, to what it really is, a take-it-or-leave-it, no emotional (feeling) need that can be enjoyed as an occasional treat.
Now, to support you on your journey of simple steps that take you back to the place of inner peace and balance that comes from releasing your fears, confusion and cravings for alcohol, I have created the unique RAPID ALCOHOL RECOVERY METHOD GROUP PROGRAM.
I truly understand how change can feel daunting and isolating, even when it is a journey that takes you to peace and joy, as many of you don’t like to travel alone, and this is just one of the powerful benefits of small group programs. You are never alone!
You have my expertise, my energy, my commitment to supporting you, and you also have a community of women on the same journey, at the same time, with the same desire to change their drinking, effortlessly.
In this small group program, you will not only receive support, learning’s, insights and answers to your journey’s questions and concerns, and how to deal with your life situations, you get the benefit of the support, learning’s and insights from your community members, the benefit of how they deal with their life situations, which you can adapt to yours too. That is beyond powerful!
This unique program will transform everything you think and feel about alcohol, and the role you have created (innocently) for it in your life, leaving you free to breathe again, to live, to be the magical person you were born to be, without any thoughts of needing willpower, control, motivation or even positive thinking – all of these take energy, and when have the balanced energy I am talking about, you don’t need them anyway!
How The RAPID ALCOHOL RECOVERY METHOD GROUP PROGRAM works
Over a 6 week period, you will receive the complete Rapid Alcohol Recovery Method coaching process experience, usually only available to 1-2-1 clients, in a an exclusive, members only, small group container, which consists of;
**** Life time access to a private members only portal through which you receive a weekly coaching videos and worksheets, based on my life changing Rapid Alcohol Recovery Method coaching process, so that you get new awareness and practical support to power you forward to freedom.
**** Weekly 1 hour Live Coaching Sessions in an exclusive, members only Facebook Group, where you have the opportunity to be coached live by me, and for me to answer any questions you have either on the topic, or concerns that have arisen during the week, so that you get the full understanding and shifts you need to be free without doubt or fear.
**** Life time access to an exclusive, members only private Facebook Group, which I am in daily, where you can share you wins, express your fears, and receive feedback and insights from your community members, so that you feel completely supported throughout your journey.
**** Regularly updated Bite Size Videos within the private portal on any topic that either you request, or I feel will offer you even greater support, again, to power you forward to peace around alcohol in your life.
Changing the perception of alcohol in your life is my passion and I am committed to bringing into your awareness and life an easier way of changing your drinking for life,
Here’s what one of my most recent client Testimonials.
“My bottle of wine (plus) a night drinking changed from week ONE and I have never looked back! x You will never know what a gift you have been in my life & the investment as been worht it 10000+ times over for me and my family!
I now bring that gift to you, in the small group RAPID ALCOHOL RECOVERY METHOD GROUP program ❤
The investment for this completely unique and life changing program is only £800 – you simply have to choose the life you want, surviving your one short life, stuck in your struggle & stress around alcohol, or thriving in that same life, free to be who you truly are.
If you want to chat, reach out to me, just click HERE . I am waiting to support you,
Love & respect
Sonia x
Aug 17, 2020
What time does your daily alcohol battle start?
Is it a time on the clock, or at the end of your working day?
What signals to you that it’s time to crack open the bottle?
Most of my clients say that they don’t think about alcohol until the late afternoon, early evening, and even if alcohol does cross their minds much earlier, they have got those thoughts under control. But then, as their day creeps on, their resolve seems to slide down a slippery slope from a manageable low-level awareness to a barnstorming non-negotiable, drinking inevitability – even though they absolutely don’t want to drink that night.
Do you recognise you here?
Do you make a decision, as soon as you wake up, that tonight you won’t drink?
Regardless of the time, be it 4.30am when you first become aware of your dull headache and remember the night before, or at 7am when you get out of bed, un-refreshed and look with sadness and despair at your reflection in the mirror, is that when you make a pact with yourself that today will be different?
However early in the day your first sad alcohol thought is, that is the time your drinking begins, many hours before the physical act of putting the glass to your lips!
From the very moment you make the decision that you are not going to drink tonight, because of the way you drank last night, you step into the cycle of your nightly drinking.
Why? It is so simple. You make the decision not to drink because of the way you feel about yourself and your drinking, and then you have to drink, to comfort the way you feel about yourself and your drinking!
When your very first thoughts of the day are of embarrassment, shame, failure or even just physical unwellness due to your drinking, you start your day in desperate need of comfort. But instead of the kind, loving, compassionate words, understanding and actions you truly need, you berate yourself for your ‘weakness’, with harsh unkind thoughts, unloving actions, and so your inner day is set.
The very thing (your drinking), you don’t want to do, the very thing that robs you of your sense of peace, self-respect, self-love, in fact any sense of your true self, is the very thing (drinking) you have learnt to believe (in intention, not result), comforts the lack of all of those ‘selfs’, and so many more, your probably can’t even identify.
Do you recognise that too? It is an absolute truth.
I used to wake up every day, feeling a total failure and silently promise myself, my son, as well as pleading with a God I don’t believe in, that today I wouldn’t drink. Yet it was the feelings of being a failure of who I was, and the mother my son deserved, that set me up for the first glass that evening.
I couldn’t live without comfort, and nor can you. I had no idea that I needed to gently enquire of myself what I was thinking, feeling before I drank – not about alcohol itself, but about ME. I knew nothing of my innocent self-neglect, and put it all down to me being completely helpless around booze.
I didn’t know that I had learnt to believe that alcohol was any sort of comfort. And in all my innocent not knowing, I blamed my weakness, my addiction as part of who I was, and who I was destined to always be, and of course, accepting that desperately sad knowing, meant I craved comfort (alcohol) more, not less.
My journey to peace and freedom around alcohol, my understanding of who I am and what I need, my understanding of the necessary role I created for alcohol in the absence of knowing myself, and then delivering those simple needs, released any belief that alcohol was any sort of solution.
I no longer ‘craved’ alcohol and I understood that I never had, I had only ever ‘craved’ ME.
My clients sometimes say they are not drinking because they feel better about themselves, but the truth is the other way round, the ‘feeling better’ about themselves is the TRUE reason they are not drinking, and once they understand that truth (which they do very quickly), out of control drinking quickly becomes a thing of their past, effortlessly.
My sober journey is the joy of my life, and each week I learn something wonderful and new that I acknowledge with gratitude for the gift of it, and the gift in life it makes ME.
I can say now with acceptance, that I love who I am, the good, kind, flawed, trying all the time woman, that is exactly who you are too – we are all the same inside our skins.
You, me, all of us are made of love, compassion, joy and forgiveness, you have simply stepped out who you are in your drinking, and without knowing it, you grieve the loss of you, and continue to drink in the absence of even being aware of your loss or how to comfort you.
Drinking is your comfort that doesn’t comfort, and to change your drinking, effortlessly, all you need is a new perspective, new awareness’s and new practices that allow you to release the belief that alcohol brings you anything, and step into the empowering reality that is that you are the comfort you need.
I created the unique 6 week Rapid Alcohol Recovery Method coaching process based on the new perspective, awareness and simple practices that removed any emotional attachment to alcohol from my life, and now it does the same for my clients.
If you have had enough of your alcohol struggle, of feeling lesser than you are, of feeling out of control around alcohol and would like to be able to take or leave a glass of something chilled occasionally, contact me.
The only hard part of change through the Rapid Alcohol Recovery Method is the reaching out, from their it is an easy, loving, eyeopening journey of peace and freedom back to you.
Be kind and gentle with yourself
Sonia
Before you go, why not take a look at just some of my wonderful client’s Testimonials and ask yourself, don’t you deserve this peace and freedom too?
Jul 12, 2020
How did you wake up this morning? A can full of beans, half a can of beans or feeling like an empty can of beans that has been lying neglected in the bin for a week?
And what part did your drinking last night play in the way you feel today?
Today I am a full can of emotional beans, and half a can of physical beans, because last night was a show stopper in my life.
I finally got to bed at 3am, after driving home a very drunk friend of my son’s, who couldn’t remember his address.
I would have preferred him to stay the night, even though I would have had to sit with him (he was that drunk), but he was adamant, in the way only a totally pissed person can be, that he go home, because it is his mum’s birthday today – that poor women is in for such a treat……
When I finally made it home, I spent the next 90 minutes clearing vomit from the hall, the front steps and my Girls – yes, ladies, he had thrown up on my sleeping dogs! I mean WTF!!
Now this is a lovely, kind, funny, thoughtful, delight of a young man, and this episode was totally out of character. Last night he just lost the alcohol plot, in exactly the same way that I, and you, are lovely, kind, funny, thoughtful, delights of women, who have also just lost the alcohol plot.
I lost my alcohol plot for 28 years, yet I am effortlessly, peacefully now safely back in the loving, safe home base of me.
And the irony of last night is not lost on me. I am fully aware that last nights scenario could easily have been me, probably was me in the past. But now that my Golden Ticket in life son is an adult, that it would have been my son, getting me to bed, making sure I had water, putting a container by my bed for me to be sick in.
That my son would have slept badly worrying about me, ashamed, disappointed and embarrassed by me, (as I would have been 100 times more when I finally woke up), and yet I live in the grace of knowing that will never happen again.
So, how do I feel this morning?
Happy, blessed at peace, proud, joyful, profoundly grateful and a little bit tired. And whilst tiredness passes, the other emotions never do, because yet again, I was the mum my son needed, and the surrogate mum his friend desperately needed.
The mum who just got up in a ‘crisis’ and ‘did’, both capable and calm.
The wonder of the mother I had so long dreamed of being. The mum who took over, stepped up, who loved and cared, without stress or trauma, for me, and for these incredible young men, and all because I am sober.
This woman is who you are too, its just that in your drinking pain you have temporarily lost sight of her.
There are NO mysteries around why or how you drink – why sometimes you can stay away, and others you have to, just have to have a drink. NONE. And there are NO mysteries around how to release all your alcohol confusion and pain, effortlessly.
My journey was long and hard, until I understood the misunderstandings of my alcohol beliefs, and then it was, and is, easy. If it wasn’t an easy way of living, I would be drunk now, I have no doubt about that.
Now I use my journey, my years, my learning, my life strategies to shrink your journey, not just from years to months, but from months to 6 weeks.
Through my unique RAPID ALCOHOL RECOVERY METHOD I have developed a trailblazing new approach to the world of recovery from alcohol pain, that comes from a different perspective, simple to understand and use mindset shifts, supported by even simpler strategies that empower and build confidence and trust in YOU in every area of your life and effortlessly release your alcohol ‘need’, because YOU are your comfort, YOU are your support, and YOU step back into being the wonderful, amazing women you truly are.
My work is not for women who want to be saved. It is for women who want to be empowered. It is for women who want the return to their self-trust and self-love to own the changes to their drinking they make, and to know that no matter what life throws at them, they will stay in the pace and grace of freedom from any alcohol ‘need’.
If my message resonates with you, and you are ready to commit to stepping back into the woman and mother you truly are, the golden opportunity is here, waiting for you.
I have used everything I have learned on my journey back to a women I adore, understanding that your struggle with alcohol has very little to do with alcohol and everything to do with your ‘Alcohol is the Solution’ belief.
I know that willpower, control, motivation, avoidance and all the old tried and failed methods don’t work, and so do you, because you have tried and ‘failed’ over and over again. And I also know what does work, effortlessly.
So if now is your time, take the only hard step to change and reach out to me, today. All you have to do is contact me HERE, and I will guide you from there
Have a peaceful day and be kind and gentle with your lovely self.
Sonia x
PS. I love to share my clients joy at their freedom, so here’s a recent TESTIMONIAL, from my unique 6 week RAPID ALCOHOL RECOVERY METHOD coaching process. The success of this exciting new life/drink changing methodology, is spreading quickly, don’t you deserve to this easy success?
““Hi Sonia, another day of being ME! I love writing that and its been months, since I haven’t been ME. I had no idea the peace I would get from changing my drinking and it certainly wasn’t why I signed on the dotted line with you. I am over the moon that I did though, and so is my daughter and my son. Thank you”
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If you would like to understand more about my journey from 28 years of alcoholism, to peaceful freedom, take a look at my internationally acclaimed book,This Isn’t Me (click on the link HERE).I wrote it for my son, as an apology for his younger years, and as an attempt to explain the un-explainable and to let him know in the clearest way possible, that always was, and always will be, my Number One.
Jun 26, 2020
It’s my birthday next week and my Golden Ticket of a son is taking a half day for a secret treat (God help me – I imagine I will be climbing something and sweating buckets of fear knowing his idea of a ‘treat’……) He told his work I will be 75, when in fact I will only be 56 years young!
A grateful, blessed 56 years young. Grateful and blessed to have these years of absolute joy of life that I didn’t think was possible.
I am older, saggier, funnier, kinder, more at peace with myself , more comfortable in my increasing wrinkly skin than I have ever been, and beyond grateful to have another sober birthday and the opportunity to see, feel and hear the wonders of life all around me. Wonders I didn’t even know I existed during my drinking years.
I wanted to be sober so badly, and I knew all the things I didn’t want any more of, the headaches, the shame, the pretending I was ok, when I was anything but. The exhaustion of always being the life and soul, minus any real life or soul, the lying, the hiding my drinking and the trying to convince myself I was in control.
Do you recognise any of this?
The truth is, I had no idea what a sober life, or any other life was, but my God I do now, and I want you to know too.
You know that your drinking takes from you, and your loves. You see, feel and hear the distress that comes from your nightly ‘pick you up’ that ‘drags you down’.
But have you ever really stopped and thought of the true costs of your drinking?
Yes, there are the money ‘costs’, and you can probably recoup the cash. You can save a bit here, cut back a bit there, it’s not so bad (until it is).
But I’m talking about the soul wounding deeper and much bigger costs. The costs of joy, peace, happiness, love, self-respect, self-esteem and all the other ‘self’s’ that when in place, gift you the wonder of a life worth living, not the half-life of your drinking.
How many of the life’s loving moments with your children, your partner, your family and friends have you lost? The memories of joy that are at best fogged over, and at worst you deprived yourself of because of your hangover, your alcohol worry and stress, your fearful thinking and your sleepless nights?
How many days of peace has your drinking cost you? How much laughter, love, contentment, and fun?
How much success has your drinking cost you? How many times have you not put yourself forward, fearful that you are flawed and lesser because of your drinking?
How much of the capable, less resilient, less amazing, sexy, confident and wonderful you has gone down the hatch with your wine?
These are costs that take to much from you, these are the costs the rob you of the joy of a life worth living.
You have been gifted this one potentially glorious opportunity to be your very best self, to bask in a Universe that loves you, with people who love and respect you, with a YOU that loves and respects you, and no matter how many years you live, this one time opportunity of life, is painfully short.
You can’t get any of the lost joys back, not one minute, of one day, of one month of however many years you have struggled with your drinking, but you can make the decision to change, for life, TODAY, and gift yourself, and your loves, the life you all deserve, for the many years of life you have ahead of you.
The peace, love, joy and wonder of this life is priceless, completely priceless.
I have women who say to me I would do/pay anything to be free from my drinking. It would mean everything to me to be free, and yet, when it comes down to it, there is something else, someone else more important in their life.
Something that some else needs, and being the giving, loving woman that you are, you decide to put yourself last again and continue doing what they have always done, trying and ‘failing’ and so stay trapped in your stop/start drinking cycles and all the associated unhappiness and despair that comes with it, instead of investing in yourself, even though you know that what is best for you, is best for everyone you love.
Your drinking costs you to much LIFE, yet it is YOUR decision to pay that cost, over and over again, and so feel the loss of you, if not everyday, certainly every day you want to change the way you drink and find that you cannot.
This is my 6th sober birthday, I don’t have big plans, I don’t need them. I have love, and peace and harmony and gratitude, the most profound gratitude for the gift of freedom and joy of the life I now have, the freedom to be who I am without shame of fear of relapse. The freedom that gifts me the glorious inner knowing that I am good enough, always.
There is no greater gift than this.
If you are heartsick of your drinking, and know that you have to try something new, something empowering, something effortless and something that will change the way you drink for life, NOW, I have the answer.
I developed the unique 6 week, 1-2-1 RAPID ALCOHOL RECOVERY METHOD, coaching process, from my own sudden joyful sober moment, the knowledge and learning’s I have invested in over the last 6 years, as well as my training’s as a Master Practitioner of NLP and a Master Coach.
Through this incredible, life changing/drink changing process, my clients enjoy a level of success unheard of in traditional therapies.
The ONLY hard part of changing the way you drink is reaching out, from there, I will do the rest. I will guide you back to the life you deserve and still able to enjoy a social drink effortlessly.
You just have to message me, HERE
Be kind and gentle with yourself.
Sonia
PS, I love to share my clients joy at their freedom, so here’s a recent Testimonial
“My life has changed completely. I feel rested and at peace even on the busiest of days. I have created 15 minute slots in my day for me and this one small change, as well as my 5 minute morning routine has bought me back into balance. All those years I thought I was struggling with alcohol when I was really struggling with the lack of me. Thanks darling Sonia, your vision is so different from any other approach and it just works”
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There will never be a time that is more right for change than today. You already live in fear, why not make the choice now to live in freedom? Here’s the Rapid Alcohol Recovery Method link again in case you missed it earlier
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If you would like to understand more about my journey from 28 years of alcoholism, to peaceful freedom, take a look at my internationally acclaimed book,This Isn’t Me (click on the link HERE).I wrote it for my son, as an apology for his younger years, and as an attempt to explain the un-explainable.
Jun 22, 2020
You are heartsick of the way you drink, and the daily battle you have in the run up to that first glass of wine. The whole alcohol ‘problem’ is an exhausting mess and you have had enough of the struggle.
You don’t even want to stop completely, you just don’t want to ‘have’ to drink every night, hiding the evidence of your weakness, your failure, pretending you are tired when you are drunk, and then waking up feeling depressed, isolated and frightened again, because you just cannot stay away from the damn bottle.
You want to regain control of your drinking. You want the freedom to chose when/how you drink and you just don’t know how to achieve it.
Most of the amazing women I talk to want the ‘freedom to control their drinking’, a strangely conflicting statement which I always gently challenge, because control isn’t freedom………
Of course to find yourself finally in control of your drinking is a fantastic step forward, when you have previously felt so out of control, but the truth is, control is the equivalent of an electronic leg tag.
You have made a huge effort and you have obeyed your self-imposed rules, and learnt to live, on the whole and in comfort, within the boundaries and strategies of avoidance around alcohol you have created for yourself.
And when the going is good, you are rocking your control.
You see, hear and feel all the benefits of being in control. You feel proud, happy and a winner, and because of these wonderful feelings, every aspect of your life improves – your home life is more peaceful, life is more joyful, life is gooooood!
However, relying on ‘Control, like Willpower, is simply a way of keeping you ‘locked in’ on your promises, and like the electronic tagging device, there is always the added weight and the unnatural flashing light of it in your awareness, both of which take energy.
And here’s an absolute truth, on days when you are thinking/ feeling good about yourself and the way you view the world, you believe that your control/willpower is working.
However on those wonderful days, because of the way you are thinking and feeling, you don’t want a drink and its easy to say ‘No’.
Then on days where you feel lower in energy – maybe over tired, hungry, alone, unappreciated, unheard, unloved, in need of comfort and support, you waver, you believe your ‘control/willpower weakens and you drink.
And you know the rest. You feel a failure (again) and you are marched back into your alcohol prison and drinking cycle, all control seemingly abandoned, until you try again, and harder, placing yourself in tighter restrictions, which takes even more energy to stay in control.
You only need control/willpower to stop yourself doing something you really want to do, and you drink in a way you don’t like to make yourself ‘feel better’. So, on tougher, lower days, you find yourself needing to control your method of ‘feeling better’ – that’s where the sense of deprivation, loss, sadness comes in.
You are not designed to live in pain and unhappiness, or to deny yourself comfort and support, you have just forgotten how to deliver the ‘feeling better’ you are looking for, and so you turn to alcohol.
Freedom is completely different, it is limitless, it is living without the fear of relapse, it is peace and grace, and it is a very, very different in energy from Control.
Again, you drink to make yourself feel better. But Control isn’t long lasting ‘feeling better’. Control is a superficial sticking plaster – it isn’t the inside out ‘feeling better’ you need, FREEDOM is.
The freedom I am talking about, is the freedom from your ‘Alcohol is the SOLUTION’ belief. Control leaves that belief safely in place, ready and waiting to comfort you when you are most in need, the very time when you most need control.
Freedom is being connected with yourself, in awareness of your needs and lovingly delivering them.
Freedom is trust in you. Control is lack of trust, hoping to learn to trust in you.
Freedom takes no energy, instead it gifts you more.
Control takes energy, and when you need it most, it control drains you most.
Do you recognise my writing?
Can you see that Freedom from your drinking is where you want to be?
- The freedom to choose if and when you drink?
- The freedom of no longer being afraid of ‘failiure’, the freedom to live the life of peace and grace you deserve?
If you are ready for that freedom, I know the way, through the Rapid Alcohol Recovery Method. This 6 week coaching process is completely unique. I developed it through my own journey of 28 years of alcohol struggle and pain, and it is the exact process that took me back to ME, the me who never ‘needs’ to drink or eat myself silly to feel better. This is the journey to freedom I offer, no control required.
I DO feel better, and I trust myself to deliver those ‘better feelings’ every day, effortlessly.
If you are ready to change your drinking, to forget about control and find your freedom, I am here.
Reaching out is the ONLY hard part of change and it shows that you are already brave.
Don’t waste another day, week, month or year struggling with alcohol the way you have been for the last day’s, weeks, months and years. If you want to change your drinking, and you are ready to invest in you, the change starts TODAY, by clicking HERE to contact me.
Be kind and gentle with yourself
Sonia x
PS, I love to share my clients joy at their freedom, so here’s a recent Testimonial
“My life has changed completely. I feel rested and at peace even on the busiest of days. I have created 15 minute slots in my day for me and this one small change, as well as my 5 minute morning routine has bought me back into balance. All those years I thought I was struggling with alcohol when I was really struggling with the lack of me. Thanks darling Sonia, your vision is so different from any other approach and it just works”
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There will never be a time that is more right for change than today. You already live in fear, why not make the choice now to live in freedom? Here’s the Rapid Alcohol Recovery Method link again in case you missed it earlier
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If you would like to understand more about my journey from 28 years of alcoholism, to peaceful freedom, take a look at my internationally acclaimed book,This Isn’t Me (click on the link HERE).I wrote it for my son, as an apology for his younger years, and as an attempt to explain the un-explainable.
