Welcome to the launch of my blog, Insights from a (Formerly) Drunk Mother. This is an unexpectedly proud day for me, not only am I living my dream of being the sober happy mother and woman I never thought I could be, but I am also in the privileged position of being able to offer help and support to my fellow travelers seeking the inner peace that comes with freedom from our unhappy emotional habits. And trust me on this, whether your poison is food or booze, all soul destroying unhappy habits are firmly rooted in the same place, the personal emotions & conditioning that are so safely and securely stored in our immensely powerful unconscious mind.
In my weekly blog posts I am going to share with you all the wisdom I have gained on my continuing sober journey. I write wisdom not knowledge as knowledge is not enough, it is what we take from that knowledge, how we interpret it, and how that interpretation resonates within us that enables profound change.
If you have read my book, This Isn’t Me , you will know that for me, realizing that I had a choice to drink or not to drink rocked my world completely. It smashed all my pre-conceived, and, almost literally, fatally flawed thinking around my alcoholism, addiction across the board and chances of recovery.
In an instant my world changed, I suddenly had the insight I didn’t even know I needed. I ‘got it’, I ‘got me’ and by ‘getting me’, I had a clear way forward that nothing and no-one else’s view of alcoholism and my freedom from it could deflect me from. I know me better than any book, group, lecture or tried and tested formula for recovery, and thank’s very much for the input, I’ll go with me.
However, what worked for me won’t necessarily work for someone else. Others have read and understood my insight, but in their view of the world, with their conditioning around alcohol, their personal history, thier booze history and thier experience of attempts to quit, my recovery can sound amazing. People tell me that I am amazing but that what I have achieved is completely beyond them.
My moment of insight was amazing, but I am not. I simply understood something that hit one of my deepest held core values, (the responsibility of choice), and in doing so, I put myself, without even trying, firmly back in control and on an unwavering path to sobriety. God, I love that word! x
So, the blog posts that are to follow are my best attempt to unweave the unhelpful, faulty information we are drip fed from a far too young age as to alcohol, its place in society, what it gives to us, how ‘harmless’ it is – which it can seem to be until you want to stop, and usually, in that very moment, you realize you can’t………….. As well as to challenge the accepted wide spread views on recovery (of which we have no chance because we are addicts), well hell no, I am living proof that is bull**** .
My aim is to give you the best opportunity to at least shift the unseen alcohol blinkers you may be wearing, that will help you find your insight too.
I am going to be honest and straightforward, and all I ask of you is that you turn up, tune in and read with an open mind. If I sound crazy, laugh at me, but then please read again. I want nothing from you, yet have everything to give.
If you don’t like or understand anything, email me. I will always answer.
The road to recovery has been sold to you as an uphill, rocky terrain. A journey on which you must always have a white nuckle grip on the steering wheel of you, sweating with anticipation of the alcohol quivalent of a speed bump or pot hole, always driving at the edge of a precipice, with no rest stops and nowhere to park. It doesn’t have to be.
Instead, I invite you to buckle up, roll down your windows and enjoy the journey. Feel the breeze blow through your open mind as it loosens your thinking, learning to smell the freshness that comes with an alcohol free body. Steering your life your way, in the direction you want to go to, responsible, accountable and in control.
There is a beautiful life out there waiting for all my fellow travellers, we have just lost our way for a while.
Bring your sandwiches, a bottle of water (out pops the nutritionist in me), and enjoy the way your life naturally changes as we trundle down the not-so-confusing-after-all road to sobriety.
PS. I have even lovingly lit the way with candles.
Until next week. Love & respect. x
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