Do you feel out of control around alcohol?
Trapped in your daily drinking cycle?
Making decisions each morning, that today will be different, only to find yourself hiding the empty bottle (again) at the end of the night?
What is going on? What is wrong with you? Why are you so weak in your LIFE, and why is alcohol so strong?……
I know exactly what is going through your head daily, as you struggle to understand you, alcohol, and your despair at not being able to regain control of your drinking.
I lived like that for 28 years, and it was hard, exhausting, and I felt a total failure, I couldn’t change my drinking, I couldn’t stick with any plan….I lost. Alcohol won. Every day (or almost every day).
And then alcohol didn’t win….I did…
So, what changed?
Well alcohol didn’t change.
Alcohol couldn’t change.
Alcohol couldn’t win. Alcohol couldn’t lose.
Alcohol didn’t give a damn about me or whether I drank it or not….so….that left me who changed.
And here’s how I changed
I stopped focusing on alcohol. I finally gave up looking over and over again, trying to find different answers, using the same old information, which had never worked, and I started focusing on the thoughts and feelings that I had before I drank…..why they were there, how they were created, what they actually meant, and I found all the answers fall into place, one after another, naturally, easily, like a jigsaw puzzle of a picture I had never seen before, and my drinking changed……
Here’s what I learnt to be true for me, and true for all my clients too.
Your drinking trap has nothing to do with alcohol, it is the BELIEFS you hold around what alcohol delivers to you (in intention), and the LIMITING BELIEFS of how hard change will be, how you will ‘cope’, relax, BE without alcohol – which is the daftest, because changing your drinking doesn’t have to be a ‘never again’ solution…..
So, what are LIMITING BELIEFS in the context of alcohol?
Limiting Beliefs around alcohol are the deeply ingrained, perceptions and attitudes that you hold about alcohol and its role in your life.
It is your alcohol Beliefs that decide your drinking habits, not alcohol.
It is your alcohol Limiting Beliefs that create the fears about how hard changing your drinking will be, not alcohol.
You cannot see any Limiting Belief, but you can always feel it.
When you think about stopping drinking, or even changing the way you drink, you bump up against the Belief, and you feel anxious, deprived, fearful and the more you try to fight yourself (not alcohol), to not drink, the greater the fear, anxiety becomes, until you give in and drink…..
This is the cause of your drinking trap, your alcohol Beliefs.
And when you accept that truth, you start to gently focus on shifting the belief, instead of wasting your time, energy and headspace focusing on alcohol.
The wonderful news is, it is easy to change any Belief, once you are aware of it….and to remind you, it shows up in the way you feel, the anxiety, sense of deprivation, loss you feel when you contemplate changing your drinking….it then morphs into the battle in your own mind that is the tug of war between, “Don’t drink”, vs, “It will be different this time”.
It is the Limiting Belief that craves comfort, for you it might be alcohol, for another it might be food, shopping, gambling.
It is the Limiting Belief you try to find willpower to fight, not alcohol.
Once you start to your journey of true understanding of your problem drinking, which is NOT alcohol, and release the Limiting Beliefs you hold around alcohol, you release stress, anxiety, confusion and a path appears in front of you.
You can easily regain control of your drinking, you can easily find peace of mind, happiness, and freedom, and all you need is a clear process and strategies, backed up with compassionate and empowering support.
And remember, the process should not focus on limiting, avoiding alcohol, and must focus on releasing the truth of your drinking problem….your alcohol Limiting Beliefs.
I have a unique process to changing problem drinking, which works on the absolute knowledge and experience that alcohol is what you ‘do’ that has hurt your life, but not what needs to be changed.
I have supported 1000’s of clients find their peace and freedom around their drinking, allowing them to become Simply Social Drinkers.
Is it your time to walk a new path, with a new perspective and empowering new way of changing your drinking for LIFE?
Here’s just one Client’s Testimonial
“For over 10 years I’ve struggled and tried various recovery methods including 3 stays in rehab. I’ve finally got the effortless freedom from alcohol that Sonia promises in just 6 weeks. I can’t remember feeling this happy. I’m me. Thank you Sonia … I’m truly grateful”. Ms GK
This could by you, starting from your very first session….are you committed and ready?
Then let’s talk, contact me HERE