If you woke up again this morning feeling heavy in your head and heart because you drank far too much again last night, when you promised yourself you wouldn’t, when you have told yourself 1000’s of times you wouldn’t and then you did…..This is for you
In my 29 years of desperate drinking, I tried to stop many times. I wanted to be a better mother, a happier woman, someone who deserved self-respect and love, I wanted to feel healthier, slimmer, a version of me that coped with life, who loved life and wasn’t living in secret fear and guilt because of my drinking.
And I tried, I really did…..and each time, I ‘failed’.
Each time something tripped me, and I fell back into the bottle and the fear of failing grew stronger with every fall.
In my professional role as The Alcohol Coach, I have never had a truthful conversation with anyone who had tried and ‘failed’ before, and was frightened that their past ‘failure’ was their only future.
Is this your secret fear to? That you can’t do it, and you will never break free from your drinking habit?
Have you grown to believe this is just who you are. That your history—the times you’ve tried and “failed”—is proof you can’t change.
Well, listen to me because I am telling your absolute truth.
Your drinking history doesn’t dictate your happy, sober future.
The truth is, every choice you make today, even the smallest, has the power to rewrite your story, because;
💫 You’re not stuck.
💫 You are not weak.
💫 You’re not broken.
Instead, you simply didn’t know HOW to change.
And now? I am going to teach you, your exact ‘HOW’
Step One: Stop Believing the LIE
The voice in your head telling you, “You’ll never do it,” is lying.
It’s not your truth.
It’s fear, born out of past experiences, trying to protect you from disappointment. But that fear keeps you trapped in overthinking and self-doubt.
You’re not here to play small. You’re here to step into a life of peace, freedom, and happiness—a life free from the cycle of drinking and regret.
Step Two: Trust the Process
It’s easy to get caught up in your head, overthinking every little step, trying to “figure it out”, re-creating scenarios of failure based on past experiences and projecting them into your totally unknown future….
From TODAY, I want you to completely internalise this TRUTH
CHANGE doesn’t happen in your thoughts. It happens in your heart space – when you step out of your overthinking and into the safety and trust of YOU that is always present in your HEART.
Here’s HOW you stay in your safe, grounded heart space:
🌟 Breathe and Pause: When you feel the pull to pour a drink, take five, long, slow, deep breaths.
🌟 Slow, steady breathing shifts you out of panic and into calm.
🌟 Check In With Yourself: Ask, “What am I really feeling right now?” Most of the time, it’s not about the alcohol—it’s about needing comfort, connection, or calm. Identify the real need and give yourself what you’re truly craving.
Keep your focus only on TODAY. You don’t have to figure out forever, or even tomorrow, just focus on making an empowered choice TODAY.
Step Three: Rewrite Your Story
Your past isn’t a life sentence—it’s a lesson. Each time you’ve tried to change, you’ve learned something valuable about yourself, your needs and your boundaries. Now, you’re ready to use those lessons to create your NEW Story
Here’s HOW:
Instead of THINKING, “I always fail,” remind yourself, “Every choice I make today is shaping my future.”
When FEAR creeps in, say, “I don’t need to know everything right now. I just need to take the next step.”
When you feel DOUBT, tell yourself, “I deserve peace, and I’m capable of creating it.”
Step Four: Stay Connected to Your Loving Heart, Not Your Stressed Head
Your head will try to pull you back into the cycle of overthinking—“How will I cope? What if I fail again?”
But your heart knows better. It knows you are strong, capable, and ready.
The HOW to stay connected to your Heart Space:
🌟 Write It Out: Keep a journal where you can pour out your thoughts without judgment. This is your safe space to process and let go.
🌟 Visualize Your Future: Take a moment each day to picture yourself living in peace, freedom, and happiness. Let that vision guide your choices.
🌟 Celebrate Every Step: Whether it’s your first alcohol-free day or your tenth, acknowledge and celebrate your progress.
When you follow the above simple process, daily, you will be the woman you LOVE, the woman who rejects any false belief that your past experiences have any power over you. You will accept completely you are not your history, and you are completely in control of creating your future.
Instead, you will know that you are the woman who stands up, again and again, determined to create a better life for yourself.
Every empowered choice you make today is shaping the peaceful, joyful future you long for. And with each step forward, you’re proving to yourself that you can cope, can change, you can be happy and at peace regardless of life’s situations and storms, and you can live authentically and free.
So take a deep breath, remember who you truly are, let go of the fear, and decide to take the next step. Your future is waiting, and I promise you, taking back control of your drinking brings so much more joy than you can even imagine.
One last time, you are not your drinking history. YOU are rewriting your story—one powerful choice at a time and creating the future you deserve…..now go and make it extraordinary!
If you want learn the quickest, simplest path out of your alcohol pain and back into peace, I offer a FREE, 20 minute, Take Back Control of your Drinking Call, if you would like to secure one, click HERE to request.
Sonia Grimes
The Alcohol Control Coach
