You have come to the point where you know you have to change your drinking – not just for Dry January, but for LIFE.
You can no longer ignore your inner worries about your health, your relationships and your ability to be the best version of yourself – present, connected, at peace with yourself and your past, and free from all your old feelings of anger, guilt and shame.
You long to stand in your true being – happy, fulfilled and authentic.
And you know that changing your drinking is key to living the life you desire and deserve.
So, you manage to stop, you manage a couple of days, a couple of months and you feel AMAZING, proud, happy and you think….’I’ve got this’
And then it all starts to slide away, your thoughts and feelings start to turn to alcohol, you start to turn towards alcohol, the fight begins, your power diminishes and you are back to where you were before, daily drinking, daily guilt, shame and totally confused…..do you recognise your drinking pattern here?
What happened? You were doing so well…what’s wrong with you?
I know there is nothing wrong with you.
And there is definitely no mystery around why you are falling back into the same old ways of non-coping with alcohol….
Here’s the truth and the answer you need to hear.
Stopping drinking is just the beginning of your journey. It’s a wonderful, empowering first step, but stopping is not enough for you to stay sober for life.
Because a sober life isn’t just about not being drunk.
There is a broader spectrum to drinking, that takes it from problem, to social……
It’s about not needing a drink. It’s the difference of being in control or out of control.
Living sober is about being in total control of your choices. It’s about drinking differently, enjoying a couple of glasses with dinner or friends on a special social occasion, and then switching to something non-alcoholic with grace and ease.
Staying sober is about recognising the difference between an easy social drink, and the out-of-control desires alcohol you feel at other times, when not have a drink just isn’t going to happen.
To live a happy, healthy sober life, you must first accept your drinking habit for what it is, something you have done habitually at certain times (after work is a great example), and the battle in your mind over I must / I mustn’t drink, that is the driver of your habit.
And then its about the wonderful, life changing process of re-connecting with yourself, your deeper unmet needs and the thoughts, feelings and understanding the beliefs you hold (just for now), that alcohol will ease the void created by your learnt self-neglect.
I know from my own experience of regaining total control of my drinking, after 29 years of no control, that the more you take responsibility for discovering your deeper unmet needs;
Maybe your needs for comfort, relaxation, peace.
Or your physically neglected needs for healthy food, good hydration,
Or your emotional needs such as connection, forgiveness, acceptance, joy, and love,
And then the responsibility for meeting those needs, the easier staying on your sober pathway is.
When you know what your true needs are and act on them consistently, you will quickly feel your mind and body fall into its natural, born to experience, rhythm of your life.
In that rhythm, you will automatically start to fill your inner void with what you truly need, and when you do that, alcohol becomes a lovely social glass of something special, and not the panacea that ultimately makes your life so much worse, and you think, feel and drink completely differently.
Your sober life is for you to define. No-one lives your life, no-one ever truly knows your needs. Its up to YOU.
And the truth is, you always have the power to change your drinking, to release old habits, and to take full responsibility for your well-being, and when you do, your drinking and life will change magically.
If you are ready to change your drinking and embark on the most joyful and rewarding journey of your life, let’s talk, you can book your COMPLIMENTARY Take Back Control of Your Drinking Call, HERE.
I’ve done the walk, I know the path to alcohol freedom, and I know how to guide you back to a life of control, fulfilment and JOY.
Sonia Grimes
The Alcohol Control Coach
