Jun 9, 2021
Hello lovely, how is your week going?
Are you living in your present moment, (the only time you ever truly have), or is the energy you have to live your life of freedom from your drinking struggle, in the love and peace you deserve, divided between memories of your past and fears for your future?
Here’s the TRUTH of your problem drinking.
- You drink to COMFORT yourself
- To ease your PAIN of yesterday
- To ease your ANXIETIES of the future
- To BOOST you UP
- To CALM you DOWN – and so your list goes on……..
And you hate the lack of control you seem to have around your drinking, and try (again) to change it.
And it makes sense that because you hate the results of your drinking, that’s where you focus your ‘change’ on starting, because you know, alcohol is the ‘problem’
But it isn’t! The intention behind your drinking is always, always to take you out of pain and into peace.
The results of your drinking is, well you know this, a mountain of pain, shame and despair.
Your daily struggle with alcohol is the conflict between the intention (feelings) and the knowing (results). It has nothing to do with alcohol…..you drink to end the conflict of you.
And because you will always act on what you feel, alcohol becomes the problem, but it is not where your focus needs to be to change the way you drink……..
- You get the hangovers, because you drink
- You talk rubbish, because you drink
- You are emotionally unavailable to your children, because you drink.
- You feel weak and hopeless, because you drink
Yet your focus needs to be on your WHY of your drinking, which is always because you lack the very things you hope it will bring you……COMFORT (an umbrella term that covers everything that takes you out of alignment with you!).
That is where the simple answer to your drinking pain is, in your WHY you want/need/CRAVE a DRINK
And the easy answer to changing your drinking lies in truly knowing your WHY through new AWARENESS’S that allow for new actions, easily, that lead to the peaceful re-alignment of YOU
Do you recognise that?
So, what will you do with that recognition?
To help you start the process of AWARENESS of YOU, I have a simple Journal prompt I give to all my clients, it will help you too.
I want you to sit with this, quietly and write your heartfelt answers before you pick up the glass tonight. Breathe deeply, download and then ACT on your answer.
“For What Purpose Do I Want A Drink?”
Just 5 minutes to hear and understand your heartfelt answers before you pick up the glass tonight.
Those 5 minutes will give you insight, options and take you out of the stranglehold of your trapped thinking / cravings. It’s not hard, its NEW.
And in doing this simple exercise, you will start the real conversation about changing your drinking going!!
Be kind & gentle with yourself
Sonia xx
PS, to understand more about my process, here’s the link to my, 6 week Rapid Alcohol Recovery Method coaching process based on my own suddenly sober life, and through it, 100’s of women, have gone from desperate and feeling destroyed, to peace, freedom and joy.
Working with Sonia has transformed my life, not just my drinking, MY LIFE! I feel empowered, at peace with who I am and I know that whatever happens in life, I can deal with it, I don’t need alcohol. I just need me“
If you would like to understand more about my journey from 28 years of alcoholism, to peaceful freedom, take a look at my internationally acclaimed book, This Isn’t Me (click on the link HERE).I wrote it for my son, as an apology for his younger years, and as an attempt to explain the un-explainable.
Apr 29, 2021
How are YOU? Not your children, work, friends, family, YOU?
How are you feeling?
- Are you feeling comforted, balanced at peace?
- Do you feel safe in trust and alignment with yourself and the world/Universe – the bigger picture?
- Or do you feel shrunk in the ever tightening straight jacket of the stress and struggle of your drinking?
- Fearful of the ticking of the clock, as you edge towards your decided ‘Wine O’Clock’ that has become the awakening of your Cravings?
Ultimately, there are 2 ways of living around your drinking, in relaxed and in control, or struggle, stress and out of control.
Both of which are CHOICES only you can make, and the stress, struggle and out of control can be changed by simple new awareness’s that allow for effortless expansion of your perception of you, alcohol and LIFE.
In effortless expansion, you have a wider horizon, with space for greater opportunities, greater choices for thoughts/feelings and the consequences of these two, the ACTIONS you take – to drink, to not drink, to not drink with ease, to fight to not drink.
Alcohol doesn’t change. It can’t. Take that one simple FACT on board, and shift your attention from the external (alcohol), and gently look at the only part of your ‘relationship’ with alcohol that can change, YOU.
Here’s are FOUR Simple Steps to help you on your journey to you, and to finding PEACE around alcohol.
- RECOGNIZE the feelings that come up when you crave a drink – you drink on what you feel, not on what you think
- OBSERVE the thoughts that created the feelings
- DETACH from those thoughts – the less you engage with your thoughts, the weaker your feelings. To do this, when your ‘drinking thinking’ pops up, say with non-judgmental kindness, “Hi, you’re here again, I don’t need you, off you go now” – this alone creates a gap between you and your thinking that loosens your alcohol thinking/feeling/Craving trap
- PRAISE yourself – every time you use the above and don’t drink – your praise of you activates your LOVE of you, the most powerful emotion and in LOVE there is no desire for alcohol.
And it is ALL down to you! It is YOUR (not someone else’s), kind words, towards you, that create the most powerfully kind feelings and kind feelings mean you don’t drink!
Changing your drinking is NOT hard.
Battling with your painful THOUGHTS and FEELINGS/CRAVINGS IS – this is the mental torture you inflict on yourself, as you attempt to make yourself ‘feel better’ by not drinking.
Alcohol is what you ‘DO’ to end that torture.
As long as you continue to try over and over again, to change your drinking, by starting with any attempt to deny yourself your ‘comfort’, by beating yourself up for you ‘weakness’, and not turning instead to gently learning the self-loving truths about who you are and what you need, you will get the same results….’failure’
When you start your journey to freedom, by looking into you, into the wonder and magic of you – a wonder and magic you have learnt to believe no longer exists, your drinking will change, effortlessly.
If my words resonate, I can help you. The hardest part of change through my 6 week, Rapid Alcohol Recovery Method process, is the reaching out.
The holding out of your hand and placing it in mine. Until you are your rock, I will be. My journey to changing my drinking has been the joy of my LIFE, don’t you deserve that too?
Be kind and gentle with yourself
Sonia xx
PS. If you would like to understand more about my journey from 28 years of alcoholism, to peaceful freedom, take a look at my internationally acclaimed book, This Isn’t Me (click on the link HERE).I wrote it for my son, as an apology for his younger years, and as an attempt to explain the un-explainable.
Apr 24, 2021
How are you feeling now that Spring is here and Lockdown is slowly, but surely, easing?
Shops are open, we can meet friends (mainly in the freezing bloody cold), schools are back and a hopeful new normal is definitely on our horizon…….
None of which diminish that facts that the last few years have been a stress and struggle for everyone. The fears of this damn COVID, and the massive impact it has had on life.
Maybe you have worried about you job, money, homeschooling, being isolated.
There’s been no hugs, no kisses, and Zoom has lost all its appeal hasn’t it?
This isn’t a moaning ‘poor me’ message. I KNOW how blessed I am, my God, do I know it!
To have my son with me, to be in the care bubble of my brother and sister-in-law, to have My Girls (doglets) to walk, and to still be able to serve and change the lives of the amazing clients who do me the honour of choosing me to be their guide to freedom from the dreadful pain of their drinking, and back to the peace that is their birthright, are huge, gifts of which I am so grateful.
And still…….a great deal is lost……..
I am an expressive ‘hugger’, are you?
I love to touch my loves, my family, my friends. I love to put my arms around them, hold them close, and let them know how very much I love them without words, because there are no words that can express my love, and all that is gone. We are socially distanced and it has ‘aged’ me.
Of course there is the vaccines, a very controversial subject, but having had a frighteningly brutal dose of COVID, I am committed and have had my first jab, and now have been lucky enough to take advantage of the slow opening up to take myself, and My Girls, down to Devon to watch the sunrise over the sea, to re-cablibrate, and to do what I beg you to do for yourself, every day
Please lovely, take the time to stand outside, for just 10 minutes and do this lovely, soul expanding exercise
- BREATHE, slowly and deeply, to let your mind chatter quieten.
- Look to the sky with profound Gratitude for WHO YOU ARE
- For WHO YOU HAVE in your life,
- For WHO YOU HAVE LOST, and the gift of having had them, no matter for how short a time, for what you have and
- For your PERFECTLY, IMPERFECT, ONCE ONLY, LIFE 💖
I promise you, that 10 minutes alone will take you from anxiety and stress, and back to your default settings of
REST, RECOVERY & RESTORE – and when you have those, you have the ultimate’s in life, JOY and PEACE.
- In PEACE you have no alcohol CRAVINGS
- In PEACE you need no WILLPOWER
- In PEACE you don’t fear LOSING CONTROL OF YOUR DRINKING
- In PEACE, you have the COMFORT you look for in ALCOHOL
- In PEACE you have the wonder of YOU.
I am back now and my struggle is comforted. However I am not yet back in my physical home, but back in my emotional and spiritual one, the home where I am strongest, and I am here for you.
If you are ready to change your drinking for once and for all, with ease, take a look at the unique process I created for you, Rapid Alcohol Recovery Method, just reach out, you only have to hit Reply with a very brave ME (that ME will be the ONLY hard part of your journey to freedom), and I will take your from there. In less than 6 weeks, you WILL be free.
There is nothing greater you can do for YOU and your family right now, than to change the way you drink, and you know this deep in your heart. x
Be kind and gentle with yourself
Sonia xx
PS I love to share my clients joyful successes, so here’s a recent one, and there are more on my Testimonials page.
Working with Sonia has transformed my life, not just my drinking, MY LIFE! I feel empowered, at peace with who I am and I know that whatever happens in life, I can deal with it, I don’t need alcohol. I just need me“
If you would like to understand more about my journey from 28 years of alcoholism, to peaceful freedom, take a look at my internationally acclaimed book, This Isn’t Me (click on the link HERE).I wrote it for my son, as an apology for his younger years, and as an attempt to explain the un-explainable.
Mar 30, 2021
Life is starting to open up
You can meet up in groups outside
The sun is shining 🌞
You are moving forward to a new, slightly uncertain and definitely different ‘normal’, life is looking hopeful.
Are you feeling hopeful about your drinking?
Are you feeling confident that you can let go of the daily drinking habits you have slipped into will not just disappear?
Do you feel that you can regain ‘control’ over your drinking, to go from Daily Drinking, to Social Drinking, and do the feelings that comes up from reading this sentence make you feel relaxed, confident and at ease, or anxious, fearful and tearful?
Are you worried that you have created a new ‘drinking normal’ that is there for life?
Here’s a lovely tip to support you.
If you can, stand outside and take a couple of deep, long breaths – make the exhale longer – taking you immediately out of Overthinking, Stress and Anxiety and into Rest, Recovery & Repair – from trapped thinking to expansion, peace and space.
Then make the powerful, self-loving decision about who you want to be, free from your daily drinking, and create your SOUL TEMPLATE – the vision of you who is free from your painful drinking, free from your fearful thoughts and feelings around alcohol, and when you are free of your fears, anxieties and pain around alcohol, you can drink, socially without any fear of losing control.
You are free to easily be the woman you deserve to be, free to choose how and when you drink. To stick to your limits, to say “No” with grace and ease.
Creating and seeing your SOUL TEMPLATE in front of you, brings up the powerful emotions of joy, peace, certainty and trust that you lean into daily, allowing every ACTION you take to be aligned with your vision of you.
If you need help creating your SOUL TEMPLATE to support your drinking changes, its one of the first exercises in new Simply Social Drinker Group program that starts next week!
This is part of the process of empowered change, a holistic mix of the spiritual, scientific and practical, with a huge dollop of excitement and fun, created from the knowledge of the true core of your drinking, and works with that knowing as the golden thread that runs through it, which allows your drinking to change naturally.
How?
- You ACT on what you BELIEVE about alcohol, not what you know about alcohol
- Your MINDSET is created by what you BELIEVE about alcohol
- Your fears of failure and created by what you BELIEVE about alcohol
It is about your BELIEFS about alcohol, not about alcohol itself – for others it could be food, gambling, shopping.
Do you recognise that?
Your drinking struggle exists ONLY in your superpower Unconscious BELIEFS that alcohol brings you something and that changing your drinking is difficult, hard work and likely to fail – which is why you do ‘fail’……
Your drinking struggle does NOT exist in any bottle, event, situation, time (pain of the past or fear of the future).
If you are looking for a solution that releases you from Cravings, relying on Willpower, fear of Losing Control, whilst allowing you to enjoy a Social Drink without slipping back into Daily Drinking, that is what the unique, 6 week Simply Social Drinker Group program offers you, effortlessly.
There are only 5 SPACES left, in this fully supported, no question unanswered, no fear unresolved, process of empowerment, freedom, peace and joy, here’s the link for all the details, https://bit.ly/3cQ1WGQ
The investment for the 6 week Simply Social Drinker Group program, this time ONLY is £700 (future rounds £1000) and, again, with a this time ONLY BONUS of a 1 hour Coaching Session (worth £250) and we start, 6th April! x
If you want to move past the pain of your drinking into the sunlight of a peaceful, new life, NOW is the time, all you have to do is hit reply with a ME and I will send you a link to reserve your place.
Be kind and gentle with yourself
Sonia
PS, I love to share my clients joy at their freedom, so here’s a recent Testimonial
“Hi Sonia, I am now 18 months free from my horrible, out of control drinking and I am living my BEST life, so very happy. Changing my drinking has changed everything for me and my family. I don’t think I will ever have the words to thank you”
Finally, if you would like to understand more about my journey from 28 years of alcoholism, to peaceful freedom, take a look at my internationally acclaimed book,This Isn’t Me (click on the link HERE).I wrote it for my son, as an apology for his younger years, and as an attempt to explain the un-explainable.
Mar 7, 2021
What would changing your drinking mean to you, how would your life, your loves be different?
How would you feel if you were able to CHOOSE to enjoy an occasional social drink, instead of feeling you had no control over your drinking?
How different would your day be without alcohol CRAVINGS, struggle and stress?
When I look back over the last 6 years, I cannot believe how my life has changed since I stopped drinking.
I don’t believe there will be anything else in life I do that will have a bigger impact on me or my loved ones.
Below are just a few of the changes that are obvious daily (and the list is endless)
- Where there was fear, there is now trust
- Where there was shame, there is now self-respect
- Where there was self-hate, there is now self-love
- Where there was a shadow of a woman, there is ME
I am passionate about changing the way you think, feel and drink!
You deserve all peace and freedom from your drinking struggles, and you also deserve to enjoy an occasional social drink if you choose too!
To help me best support you, I have created a SIMPLY SOBER, SIMPLY FREE TO CHOOSE, survey, (here’s the link https://bit.ly/SimplySober ) that I would love you to fill in.
As a HUGE thank you for the 5 minutes it will take for you to complete this survey I am offering FREE, 5 x 1 hour, Alcohol Pain to Peace Coaching Sessions (worth £250), you session will be over Zoom so that you have lifetime access to your session replay.
As with every communication between us, it is completely confidential, and my aim is truly understand your view of your struggle and the SOLUTION you feel would work best for you.
The more I know, the more profound the result you get and quicker!
Once you have completely the form, you will go into a very private hat and I will message you on THURSDAY, 11th if you have been picked!
From your Alcohol Pain to Peace Coaching session you will get;
- A new understanding of why / how you drink
- Your Stop/Start Drinking Cycle
- Release your FEAR of change
- A powerful strategy that removes CRAVINGS immediately
This coaching session is a golden opportunity to download your fears, gain clarity on your drinking, and start your journey back to peace and freedom around alcohol.
Be kind and gentle with yourself
Sonia x
If you would like to understand more about my journey from 28 years of alcoholism, to peaceful freedom, take a look at my internationally acclaimed book, This Isn’t Me (click on the link HERE).I wrote it for my son, as an apology for his younger years, and as an attempt to explain the un-explainable.
