How do you want your LIFE to be in 2023?
Do you want to be Happier?
To Drink / Eat /Shop less?
To feel more Confident in your own skin?
To have a better job, a new career, more nurturing relationships, more Peace and Joy?
My God, who doesn’t most of these, apart from one or two areas I don’t struggle with, I want them too!
And what will you do to move yourself forward, to make 2023 the year of YOU.
The year when you truly get to know who you are?
When you accept, forgive and LOVE who you are, as you are, and just for now, where you are, so that you can move forward in peace?
When you are finally able to recognise the old stories that pop up, the unconscious patterns you run, when success is within sight, and you ‘relapse’ into old behaviours of People Pleasing, allowing yourself to become Stressed, Anxious, Overwhelmed.
Or to relapse into your old Drinking / Eating behaviours.
Without truly knowing YOU, change is very, very hard. When you can’t ‘see’ , can’t identify the patterns you run behind your eyes, before you act/don’t act.
What you can’t ‘see’ leaves you blind to you, and you can quickly get caught up in your overthinking mind that presents problems, not solutions.
Your overthinking mind that projects into the future, your learned fears of your past, because it is all it knows.
And when that happens, you go into Self-Sabotage or Procrastination, and you stay stuck in the same old, same old, you are desperate to be free of.
But the truth is, both Self-Sabotage and Procrastination are your ways of ‘protecting’ yourself from ‘failure’ – if you don’t try, you won’t fail. It is as simple as that.
Except that Protection is not the same as HAPPINESS, and happiness comes through being who you truly, are and accomplishing the goals you long for.
- Protection is closed down, contracted, hard, keep out, stay still.
- Happiness is open, expansive, trusting, moving with grace and ease
Let’s have some science – the more you understand and believe the truth, the easier LIFE gets…..Self-Sabotage and Procrastination lie in the survival part of your brain, the oldest part of your brain (your Lizard brain), whose sole reason for existence is to protect you.
Your Lizard brain is where the resistance to change that seems threatening comes from.
Your Lizard brain is the voice that says “Stop, don’t go there” – and you feel worried that people will laugh at you, that you can’t do it etc, and although you feel ‘bad’, anxious, tense, despairing when that voice comes up, it is still the voice you listen too, the voice you respond to….
It is very, very powerful, until you understand these truths and then act on what you know.
And now that you do know, even briefly, what Self-Sabotage and Procrastination really are, what can you do to achieve your dreams, your goals?
Here’s some simple TIPS that I use when I recognise my old Lizard starting its job, and they WORK, you simply have to do them.
Set clear Intentions to your dreams – make them as real as if you have them now. Write down what you will have see, hear and feel when you have achieved your dreams – that in itself will quieten your Lizard brain as clarity brings certainty that you lack with just day dreams of LIFE
Go into profound Gratitude – journal every day on what you are grateful for, who you have (even if they have passed from this Earth), your breath, your heartbeat, your loves, your dogs, the sun, whatever it takes.
Shift your energy from fear to happiness, from contraction to expansion – dance, sing, get outside in nature, do anything that brings you joy and takes you out of your own head. Why, because in expansion your Lizard brain feels safe.
And no matter how big your dreams are, you don’t have to take big steps every day – LIFE isn’t all about the quantum leaps we hear of.
Small steps every day that build one on another IS enough, when your intention is clear and you are moving in the right direction.
So, now that you know the reasons and mechanisms behind Self-Sabotage and Procrastination, around your own happiness. What are you going to do differently?
Let me know, and as always and forever,
Be very kind and gentle with YOU
PS. No matter where you are stuck in LIFE, everything can change. And the change you are looking for is not hard, it is new – a bit like this blog.
The simple framework I created for profound change is the same one that changed my drinking, ended my binge eating, self-harm and allowed me to build my own business, have the happiest, healthiest relationships of my LIFE, and to grow daily into the mother, woman, LIFE Coach and emotional healer I was born to be.
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