How are you feeling about you today? And yesterday, and for the past few weeks or months?
Regardless of the circumstances of your LIFE, are you feeling calm within yourself?
Happy and Relaxed about the Choices you easily make in LIFE?
Safe in trusting yourself to stick with the choices you know will make your LIFE better?
Or, do you feel a quiet desperation building inside of you that knows you must make changes to your LIFE.
- Maybe you want to change the way you Drink, or Eat, or Spend….
- Maybe you want better Relationships, a Healthier Lifestyle, to earn more Money
- Or maybe you are sick of with feeling Stressed, Anxious or Overwhelmed.
Whatever your struggle is, you want to make changes and you want to make changes NOW, and often you know what to do, that you just need to make better Choices, but for some inexplicable reason you can’t.
Your rational mind tells you that you cannot carry on like this.
You wake in the night tangled in the stress and anxiety of your thinking about how to change.
You make decisions in the early hours of the morning that today will be different.
- Today you will not drown yourself in Food or Alcohol
- Today you will stand up for yourself and say “No”
- Today you will be better, take some time for you, delegate / ask for help, and that
TODAY is the day everything changes…..you have made your new, empowering, Choices and you are going to stick with them, ….except you don’t…..your day wears on, your ability to choose wanes and you go back to the same old, same old…….and so your cycle of exhaustion and despair goes on unbroken……
What on Earth is going on? Or rather, your usual thought is, “What on Earth is wrong with me?”
Here’s the TRUTH about CHOICE…..powerful new CHOICES are not just decisions you make in your thoughts, in fact thoughts, (your rational mind), don’t allow you to change, unless they are aligned with the FEELING (the Belief) that you do have a CHOICE…..
Let me explain….when I changed my drinking, seemingly miraculously after 28 years of painful struggle, and without any stress or struggle, I changed it through my CHOICE….a choice I had never felt I had before, and so a choice I was not able to make, or stick with before.
Of course I had known, intellectually what my drinking was doing to myself and my son.
I felt and saw the results of my drinking every day.
I used to go back to bed crying after he left for school, frightened that I wouldn’t be alive when he came back home, and certain that he had left in the morning with me a shell of the mother he deserved, anxious, stressed, impatient with my darling child, my gift from God, who I loved more than life itself.
And I didn’t’ feel I could change.
I didn’t feel I had it in me. Why?
Because I had (innocently) bought hook, line and sinker into the powerful social conditioning (Beliefs) around alcohol that changing my drinking wasn’t possible.
That I would struggle for life, that it would always be an uphill battle, and in those unseen, unknown but deeply felt Beliefs, I had (again, innocently) abdicated all my choices and responsibilities to my own negative, limiting Beliefs……
Now, 7 years happy, peaceful in myself years later, through my own experience, my learning’s and my clients easy successes, I believe that to be true of everyone that struggles to change their drinking, the way they eat, spend…..all of which come under the change paralysing umbrella term of ‘addiction’.
So, how do you know you hold those Beliefs?
Beliefs show up as FEELINGS, and when you go into conflict between what you rationally know to be true, your THOUGHTS, and your Beliefs, your FEELINGS (anxious, fearful, deprived of not doing something), you are bumping up against the super power of YOU, your Unconscious Mind, which controls 98% of your behaviors (I kid you not).
And that is where your inner struggle truly lies.
Not with the ‘doing’, not with the behaviors of your Drinking/Eating, not speaking up, not having the Love, Health, Relationships or Money that you know you deserve, but with conflict between what you THINK to be true and what you FEEL is true…..do you recognise that?
I hope so, because that inner conflict is the point at which it is game over for you, and your cycles of the way you eat, drink, shop, the relationships you have, the money you can earn, the (lack) of lifestyle you currently have, the pain you live in continue, because you BELIEVE, (feel), you cannot change, that you cannot be different, that change will be hard and all the rest of the feelings you have when you want to make a CHOICE to act/live differently.
But when you THINK you have CHOICE and it is aligned with FEELING (Believing) you have CHOICE, then its game over again….and this time your battle is won!
You act differently easily, because there is no fear, no anxiety, no sense of deprivation. Instead, your worldview opens up, there is curiosity, awareness, excitement and with each new step, taken from each new CHOICE, your LIFE changes.
- YOU grow in confidence and strength
- Your LIFE grows, it flourishes
- You CAN have the Freedom you deserve, you can have the LOVE you deserve
- You can have the MONEY you dream of
- You can have everything you want, when you THINK and FEEL you have CHOICE.
It is that simple. I promise you.
If you are ready to make the most exciting and profound changes to your LIFE, contact me (HERE), TODAY.
And always and forever, be kind and gentle with yourself